To start with, let me say that I have zero relationship experience, so I wouldn't be surprised if I was completely misinterpreting what's going on.
I recently have started hanging out with a girl quite a bit; we usually wind up watching a movie or something every day. (I'm in a residential program, so it's pretty normal for the opposite gender to casually hang out in each others' rooms. )
She hasn't made any over advances - she just is getting increasingly touchy. I'm not sure if it's as a friend or not. It started out with her just moving her elbow or knee against mine and not moving it, but she's now immediately moving to wrap her arms around my neck, drawing me back to lie against her, and rubbing my hand. I'm a pretty shy person, so I'm not starting any of this until she does first. She's a pretty friendly person in general, though, so I'm not sure how I should be interpreting this.
Verbally, she hasn't said very much, except that she keeps "trying to figure me out". She originally invited herself over to my room with friends, and now is sometimes alone or sometimes with friends. When she's alone, after a movie, she will sometimes just lie against me quietly when it ends. She doesn't say anything, but it isn't really an awkward silence.
Is she just being friendly? Is she expecting something from me? Telling me just to go for it isn't much help, as I really don't want to ruin what might just be a close friendship. If there's anything I could do to figure out, I would really appreciate your advice.
After thinking about it I'm not sure if their really is a hidden meaning in her actions. I act like that around my guy friends all the time but it's mostly because I'm really comfortable and close to them. I lean against their back while were sitting down and poke them or sit really close, side by side. I wouldn't want you to make a move the way some are suggesting. You shouldn't automatically assume that she means it in a sexual manner. I really think that she's just really close friends with you. If you want to try and figure it out just talk to her about it. Don't make it awkward (but I don't think you really could, seeing the kind of person she is) Just ask what made her become so close to you over time. If she pauses or blushes then you can guess that she likes you. But I really wouldn't want you to loose someone that is obviously really close to you, just because you were wondering whether she was getting at something.
Lol you got it going on! All you have to do is move your knee against her first only once then she'll take over. Go ahead and get really close to her when you are completely alone with her. She might even kiss you! Take charge and do something first relax she'll quickly follow.
What makes you assume that she wants to sleep with him. You need to understand that not all girls act that way and want sex. Some are just physical and playful. *sigh* - 7 months ago
I'm almost positive that she likes you. Unfortunately, she wants you to make the first move. She is trying to give you a huge clue that she likes you by doing all the physical stuff. This girl is most likely not going to ask you out, so you have to either find some way to ask her out or forget about her. She is waiting for you to "man up" and ask her out. She wants one of two things; either to get in your pants or to go out with you and actually have a relationship, but I'm pretty sure its the second one.
Sammy is completely right. I can usually understand hesitation with girls if you can't get a moment alone or anything, but it sounds like you've had plenty of opportunities and there will be more. Assuming that you like her back since you didn't say whether you did or not in the question, you should just let her know what you think about her. Id bet big money that she really digs you buddy. Especially after the ""trying to figure you out" line
Question for you: Do you want to be more than just friends? If you answered "no," then let things go the way they are, and if she never makes a move on you, she'll lose interest eventually, you'll end up in the "friend zone. " If you answered "yes," then after one of these movie sessions where she is resting on you, lean in and give her a soft kiss on the lips and hold it for a few seconds and then pull back a little. If she is interested, she will reach in for another kiss. If she seems shock and didn't enjoy it, pretend that its no big deal. And remember: Never apologize for making a move.
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