Heartbreak and a scar of rejection, fear of losing a great friendship, awkwardness, humiliation (just if a guy goes around telling his friends about this girl that said she liked him and they all laughed), ignorance, being laughed at. All the things that a guy wouldn't realize he's doing. A girl is more fragile than a guy, she breaks down easily. Guys are tough enough. for most of it and can hold it in, maybe sometimes get over it quickly. It affects a girl real deep. If you think girls should be more straight forward, maybe you should ask the girl what she thinks about you. Maybe all those would apply to her that I said applies to a guy, you can never state one reason cause everyone is different. One will get over it in a heartbeat while another could wonder for years how it would've been like if she never said what she said. Ask her how she feels, kind of send little 'hint' questions. gooooddlluuuccckkkk XD
I think that some girls can be just as rude. It's actually better for the girl to tell a guy straight up than to not tell him what's really on her mind. I think that sometimes girls string guys along unintentionally, but they instead are trying not to hurt their feelings, but end up hurting them more over a longer period of time. - 3 months ago
It doesn't work like that with guys though, I never tell a girl I have feelings for her until either I've slept with her or she says it first. If you do you risk the chance of her freaking out and running away. - 2 months ago
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Well sleeping with her is a big indicator to her you are interested. I'm talking about getting from being friends to actually going on a date...im too chicken to ask ag uyout. - 2 months ago
Because rejection is always in the back of our minds. The worst is being rejected for feelings or thoughts that we have. Some girls aren't confident enough with themselves to be sure that they can handle the answers they might get to their feelings.
The possibility that he might feel the same way is way better than knowing that he doesn't. Even possibly unjustified hope is significantly better than none at alls
Well, when you are unsure where the other person is coming from I guess it is a gray area. I dated a guy for about a month and we talked sometimes for hours. Then we stopped dating because he was not ready to get serious. We are now good friends and flirt a lot and see each other once in awhile to do things. We ended up having sex last time. It has been ok since then, but I would think that if he were really into me as he was before we broke up, we would be talking all the time, no? I have feelings for him, but I think he has them for me, yet we really don't say it to each other, just sweet emails and text messages that are nice and sweet, then very sexual. I am not sure what to say if anything, I am not sure where I stand. I may be over thinking everything and she just see what happens. Maybe if you are in a gray area, it is harder to say something, like I am now...
I've always been taught to say what's on your mind. It is kinda fun to play the flirting game a little, but once it gets past that and the feelings start up, I think it's important to share your feelings no matter the outcome. The only thing is you have to be prepared to handle rejection well. No one likes rejection, but as long as both parties can respect each other, I don't think there should be any harm to the relationship. - 4 months ago
We say what's on our mind but it doesn't always translate 100% in to guy-speak. Just like we don't always understand what you say. A little bit of confusion and doubt keeps things interesting.
I agree, a lot of girls are shy. Maybe the guy doesn't come across so much that he likes her, and she doesn't have enough confidence come out with it. Most guys are simple and straight forward, whereas girls can be more complicated. It could be that she thinks that if she makes a move, you might look at her differently? There could be a million and one different reasons why she doesn't. I wouldn't assume though that she wants to see how much the guy will go out of his way for her. Because that's rarely the case! Maybe telling her what's on your mind! :o)
This is easily answered in one word "Rejection" she is afraid you are going to push her away, or you don't like her back so she is just going to flirt though not come out completely with all of her feeling's until she knows you like her=] or you make the first move, if you can tell she is passing you signs of interest.
As for me, I was always scared to say something to make him not love me- I was stupid, when I realized that if he did not like me for me, then I started to tell him what was on my mind, Let her know that whatever she says, you will still love her and she will tell you what is on her mind
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