Is he interested but afraid that I'm not?

WOW! What is it with bosses and co workers. I have the same situation going on in my head. I am so at war in my heart. We are both married, and my god, we flirt with each other, we go to nice restaurants for lunch everyday. I try my best to try yo read in to her, but it is so complicated. I can't tell if she is in to me as I am into her? Hey maybe you can help me and I can help you. Since you are female,I know this is going to sound funny, but the last lunch we went to, we ordered dessert, and I fed her brownie and ice cream with my spoon! I was like wow, my body was like WOW! Is there any significance to this, or am I reading into to it too much? I also made a comment to her, " you and made are officially B.F.F.!" She said not yet, you haven't given my best friend bracelet. So I told her I can't because her husband may suspect something and so would my wife. I want so bad to know what direction to go, she hints around that she is unhappily married because he works nights 7 days a week and spend no time together. And her and I are always doing things together. Like in a month, her friend is going to watch the kids so her and I can attend a concert, so I thought maybe I should take her to a fancy romantic restaurant?!? Maybe you have a few pointers? Help me figure what is really going on in her mind? As for the cologne, oh yeah, it's you, see us men have something called pride. We are afraid to unveil the love card. Why? Simple. Its called rejection. She just left to go on vacation this morning, so I fixed my hair nice and wore cologne. Told her to have a good trip and I 'd see her in 2 weeks. GOD, I am going crazy without her here. Yes, look, I feel as if both need to come out the closet and say what it is they are feeling, because someone will and I repeat, will get hurt. See, we feed off of the way a woman responds to us, look, if you think its worth it, I support you. You both deserve to be happy.And if you need someone to talk to about this, you can always send me a message, I am in the same boat you are.So maybe you can help me out as well!

I got something like this going on at work. And one of the thing's I did th show I was interested was wear cologne. He probably Doesn't reply to the e-mails most likely because he doesn't know what to say back.

But you both are married, not just one of you.
So if you want to put this to the test you gotta ask yourself. Is your job expendable. Will you be able to work there if he shows he is clearly not interested.
Are there kids involved.

As for the feel his head, ;)
When I got a splinter I made sure the co-worker I was interested in knew, she ended up pulling it out. Don't know if she is genuinely interested tho :/

But those are 2 similar things I did to show I was interested.
And to be honest. If she texted or emailed me. I wouldn't know what to reply with. Not often anyways.

On that day he wore cologne, find a clever way to ask him if he did anything special that day where it would fit, him having to wear cologne.

"hey I liked that cologne you wore before you left you should wear it more often" (wink)

Haha if he wears it after that. Its a safe bet.

Stop worrying about this guy liking you or not and start worrying about your marriage. This is such a dodgy situation, work colleagues and both married? Why make things so complicated? Ask yourself how important your marriage is to you, then make a decision on that that, you don't want anyone to get hurt, hope this helps