Am I invisible?

It could be the city you live in. I live in a pretty friendly, flirtatious city, and there's a lot of flirting going on all over the place! If a guy smiles at me, I will usually smile back and then turn away if I'm not interested. It's just plain rude to pretend you don't see the guy, IMHO. I am not shy at all, either, so maybe that helps.

One thing, though, is that I do not trust really outgoing, flirtatious, good-looking guys! I assume they are players. This is totally illogical since I am all of the above (except not a guy, lol) and not a female-player type at all. This is actually something I've been working on for myself (i. E. Not being prejudiced against guys for that).

When you smile at them, is it more of a sexy smile or a friendly smile? If you're in a neutral environment, where people aren't generally looking to pick up, friendly is better.

Not every girl is in to the whole military look but don't wory when they smile and sit down go over and make small talk be your self if they don't smile its not you its them

Ok women tend to read into things a lot at times. Your facial expression and smile: is it hi hello smile or it it one of those Damn you look hot smiles. We can tell so be careful. Lol. Also at that age more women would prefer the guy to approach them that is why perhaps you always have to make the first move. What are your interests? Favorite foods, places, music, concerts? Like if you like rock music then go to a rock concert. You will be surrounded by people that obviously share your interests and that would make flirting lots easier.

Could be a lot of things.

One, you're in your 30s. So you're either flirting with women you're age, in which case many of them might be married or in serious relationships, or you're flirting with younger women, and they might not be interested in someone much older than them.

Also, smiling at women isn't flirting. I smile at girls all day and I don't get a single "hello" either, that's just the way it is. I doubt it even registers on many girls' radar as flirtation, for that matter.

Anyway, I doubt you're invisible, I imagine if you're not flirting aggressively, they just don't think you're interested. I personally just say some goofy stuff, like I'll compliment the barista at starbuck's hair or something, which usually gets a "I'm not even going to look at you" facial expression and a unenthusiastic "thanks", but every once in a while I'll get a more positive response and just start talking. Doesn't happen much, but hey, can't make anyone like ya.

I say stick with it, be more aggressive than a casual smile, and accept that the majority of women are going to dismiss you immediately, because that's just how it goes.

Ha ha. Same thing happens here. I can honestly say that I've only had (maybe) one girl flirt with me (maybe).

Only difference is, I'm incredibly ugly. ;) I figure that might be why I get so little flirting.

I flirted with a woman a while ago, and she just looked at me and in a serious tone, said "Good god, you're SO not my type in any way shape or form. " I just said "Well, that's something we have in common. " and went on (I'm not vastly interested in her, and I wasn't really looking to flirt so much as make a friendly joke).

If I flirt, girls/women either act offended, or indifferent. I smile, they don't. I have a good excuse in that, like I said, I'm "dry heave ugly. " - where the person can't throw up, but they're so sickened that their gag reflex kicks in. ;)

Now as for you, I'm not sure what the answer is, assuming you're telling the truth, and you're not some steroid popping Carrot Top look alike (I feel like doing a "The incredible hulk" impression). Sometimes it will boggle people's minds, sometimes it makes sense, and not following you around all day, I can't tell you which category you're in.

Sorry bud. I wish I could give you better advice.

What state do you live in, florida? I know in texas a lot of girls smile back when you smile at them. However, in florida, bunch of stuck up hollow bitches that just turn their faces if you smile at them! :)
You said you were good looking-----maybe the girls are intimidated by your looks and that's why they don't initiate the flirting? Also, you said you bring out the bitch shield in women when you flirt---what specifically are you doing to flirt with them? By the way, my experience has always been that if I go up to a girl and started with hi, somehow I always got a cold response; however, if I went up to a girl and started the conversation with anything else other than hi, like 'that's a nice outfit you have, or those are some nice shoes. ' and I geared the conversation at first towards that statement, then I had a better response from them.