This guy who is a friend mine (but not an extremely close one). I really like him and he's shown signs of liking me (eg. Holding my hand, hugging me, putting his hand on my knee), but the trouble is some times he acts completely different.
I ran into him at a club last night and was really happy to see him. But he almost completely ignored me and wasn't very friendly. I had to say hi first and all I got was a very curt acknowledgment I think. If anything at all.
Often he tries to get my attention by teasing me and such but last night he just didn't seem to want any of my attention at all, and in fact it was more like I was the one wanting his attention.
I know everyone will say forget the guy, but I can't and I feel so hurt when sometimes he just completely ignores me, And no, sex is not involved in any way here. I know it and he knows it. Apart from the fact the problem of him acting differently, he's a really great guy. I don't know what to do? Is it worth hanging around and hoping he'll come around and stop this whole two-personality thing? Could it be that he just wasn't having a great day or should I be worried?
Please help, I'm a little heartbroken at the moment.
If you have any other way to contact him I'd try that. If he's been nice so far then obviously something was amiss at the bar, and to stop talking to him because of that would be a mistake if you like him.
Invite him out, talk to him online, talk on the phone, and see how it all goes. If he acts strangely or doesn't want to do any of those things then you can forget him, but my guess is he'll act normally. After hanging out with him for a while, weeks or so, then maybe you can ask him what was wrong that day at the bar. It might've been something personal so don't just bluntly ask about it, make sure you and him are comfortable.
Hell dude! I would be hurt too. And no you don't just have to write him off and never talk to him again. He may have had a bad day. I don't know. I would definitely call him and say "Hey what was up with the other night at the club? " He may say that he doesn't know what you are talking about. If so don't be confrontational but say something like, "Well I'm talking about how you totally ignored me and couldn't even acknowledge me hardly. Did I piss you off or something? Because that kinda hurt my feelings. " Then see what he says. Sometimes guys do dumb hurtful things and don't even realize they are doing it. Bring it to his attention and he'll apologize. Tell him its cool and tell him he owes you a hug to make it better.
S0o0o0 this is first time he acted this towards you then something probably was going on. S0o0o0 you should invite him to go some where with you so you two can just chill and then you can ask him about it. But don't do it right be subtle about it. Hope I helped you out some!
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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