Do you do it because you like the girl? Do you do it to piss her off? Do you do it to make yourself seem more attractive to her? Even though lets say she told you she liked you, told you she's attracted to you, told you she wants you in bed, what would be the point? To be a challenge? Or to piss her off enough that she will leave you alone? What is the ultimate goal here?
Update: So I guess you can't answer then!
6 months ago
Not all guys PLAY hard to get, a lot of guys actually ARE hard to get, as in we appreciate a girl's affections and do respond to them, but look for greater significance than just pleasure before allowing things to progress.
Playing hard to get is done for several reasons, each depending on what type of guy is doing it.
The first type of guy, The Nice Guy, will play hard to get because he is shy, nervous and has low self-esteem. The Nice Guy cannot pick up on casual flirting and sometimes even blatant flirting. He "plays it safe" and tells himself that you MUST be kidding around. No girl (especially YOU) would want to have sex with him. Besides, what if he flirted back and you said NO? That would be life-shattering. The Nice Guy is so afraid of rejection, it will look like playing hard to get. These most extreme cases of The Nice Guy required an equal amount of extreme aggression to get him to realize you are serious about a relationship.
The second type of guy, The Asshole, will play hard to get for the exact reasons the question asker is afraid of. He knows you want him. He knows that by brushing your forward advances off only makes you want him more. Sure it might piss you off, but doesn't that make the prize that much more valuable? He knows this. This guy is the ultimate catch in your eyes, because of this. But be warned, he will abuse you. He is already abusing you. The clear mental abuse that goes on here will only extend once a relationship is established, sometimes even manifesting into physical abuse.
I'm not telling you to not pursue a relationship with an asshole, obviously they are the more attractive type of person to a female. And besides, the only way to turn an asshole into a reformed asshole (with latent Nice Guy tendencies) is by discontinuing the relationship. Eventually these assholes learn that being such an extreme asshole always ends in the relationship being discontinued. They will reform when they are ready to "settle down", either with a long-term relationship or marriage.
The easiest way to find out what kind of guy you're dealing with, in this situation, would be to give him your phone # and ask him to call you sometime. If he calls you, he is a Nice Guy. If not, you've got an asshole. He is waiting for you to call him back. I'd let him wait, while you look for a Nice Guy.
This is so good! I don't know which one I'm dealing with at the moment. He flirted up a storm with me and kissed me(when he was drunk). I called his # to hang out and two days later he finally text messaged me to say what's up and apologize because he said he had to work all weekend. He hasn't text messaged back (been two days) so I'm assuming maybe he's an a$$hole? - 6 months ago
Answerer
Ya, this guy doesn't seem to have any misunderstandings about how you feel about him. If he is brushing you off like this, he is either not interested or an asshole setting the bait, waiting for you to take it.
The easiest way to tell? Ask yourself what you WANT to do. Because all women want the asshole. And you want to call this guy, ya? Ya. Asshole. Like I said though, there's no harm in being with an asshole, so long as you know when to discontinue the relationship.. and be sure you can. - 6 months ago
I don't play the game. If I say "no" I mean that I am not interested now or in the foreseeable future. I have no use for people with either don't be mean "no" when they say or don't respect it when they hear it.
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