I have worked with a guy for over a year now. He is very confident which scares the crap out of me. We went on a trip to an amusement park with my work and he elected to sit next to me on the six hour ride home. It was extremely crowded and we were all scrunched together but he did not seem to mind. He tried to make me laugh the entire way home. When we are at work he sings me songs but changes the words so that it is centered around me. He is always trying to make me laugh. I am extremely shy. I have had no flirting/dating experience from the past to know if he is flirting or not. I always laugh at his jokes and try to flirt back but again I don't really know what I'm doing. I can't eat around him, he knows that, and he pretends that it makes him mad if I eat with someone else. We write notes to each other sometimes. He appears to be extremely clueless on whether or not a girl likes him. He has not dated anyone in the past three to four years that I know of. I asked him if he would like to go play mini golf sometime but did not think he would say yes so I did not have a specified time. I found out later that he asked a friend of his if she would like to come too. We are both friends with her and I know that he has no feelings for her but then why would he ask her to come too?
Is it because he thinks it would make it more comfortable for both of us to have another person there, or is it a nice way to say he would prefer not to go out? I feel like he is leading me on, he does sing to other people and he does not write them little notes. I'm confused.
You've really made it sound like he likes you. He's spending tons of time with you, making you laugh, singing, and all of that. It's more than possible he was trying to make the outing more comfortable for you. The easiest way to find out for sure is to ask him out again, but this time say, "hey I was wondering if the two of us, could do "blank""
Set up something so that you make it clear its only you two. You don't have to express feelings or anything. (I am assuming you like him).
If you have the courage to ask him to golf, ask him to something else and simply say, "if the two of us".
He definitely is curious about you. I know a guy who does the exact same thing with changing the lyrics of songs--and it is really funny, so I laugh. Whenever we are together though, it's during class and I like paying attention, so we don't have full-out conversations. Anyway, I've decided that if I ever were to see this guy outside of class, he would ask me questions, trying to get to know me. The way he acts is similar to the way your guy acts: he thinks you're cute and probably a cool person, but needs you to step up if you ever want to go anywhere. Your guys is just asking you to be more interesting. Stop being shy and just be comfortable in your own skin and he will fall for you. As of right now, no he doesn't like you, but he wants to. He invited that other girl because he anticipated awkward silences if you two ever hung out together--he wanted to make it more fun for him. This guy does not like being bored--you need to entertain him!
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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