How will I know when she feels the same thing I feel?

From what you've said it sounds like she likes you . The only way to know for sure is to ask her. You should give her a call and just tell her that you have fallen for her and see what her reaction is. She will be flattered even if she's not interested. And for your other question, if a girl likes you, you will just feel the "spark" and when you look in her eyes it will all be there. You will be able to see it.

I see three possibilities. She could like you just as friends. She could just be messing with your head on purpose, or trying to keep you around as a "backup" . Or, she could be interested, but it's "complicated." That one is less likely.

Now, here's my opinion, and mind you, I 've had a lot of girls that I've had to deal with, and not many real women as far as relationships, so I may be slightly more cynical.

I have to tell you, things don't look great on your end. She told you how "she'd know if she met her guy." Meaning you're not it. She's telling you she'd feel it, and that she isn't.

You say she wasn't ready. I'd bet you a room full of Atomic Fireballs candy that if she finds "that guy" tomorrow, she'll suddenly be "ready." Isn't that "funny?"

Talking to you means she doesn't hate every bone in your body, and she at least finds you tolerable. I think. I deal with some pretty fake people, it can be hard to tell some times what's up. But I think I got it. I have a woman/girl who's friendly with everyone. She'll talk to you like she's your best friend. But when it comes to doing anything outside of church as friends, she'll make excuses, or promise to show and then won't. She's not really interested in starting up a friendship with me. That's ok. She's her most friendly on the computer. Frankly, I was surprised that she started the conversations at all, as she usually ignores me until I talk to her. I've realized that she's not interested in any more than being friends in public, or if she wants something.

You MIGHT consider inviting her out to things over the summer, but understand that it'd be just as friends. Invite other people, and make it obvious. See what her answer is. Keep in mind that if there's a distance between you two, it probably won't happen. It probably won't work any better than "university friends." I wouldn't suggest more than just being friendly with her. I think you'd be hurt a million times over if you try just being "real" friends.

And if you do decide to wait, you could just end up being frustrated. Don't put your life on hold for her. Go out, have fun. excersize, and stay busy. Not only will other women find you more attractive (and you should consider dating others), but you'll be better all around. And, you won't have time to dwell on how good she smells, how she's got that cute little thing she does. you're working yourself into a tizzy over a woman who probably doesn't love you back.

I know, because I've done the same thing, and it still hurts me to this day. As illogical as it sounds, I fell hard for her. I'm aware that she's cheated on guys, that she lied constantly to me and most others without a second thought, and I bought the lies. But I have to move on. It's the best I can do for me. And honestly, I wouldn't wait for her in a million years. Looking at it logically doesn't always get rid of all issues emotionally, but it helps a little from time to time. And time will heal all wounds.