Most of my guy friends admitted to me that they like me more than a friend. Am usually the only girl in the pack there's always like 10 to 15 guys and then it's just me. I try to not flirt and sometimes I do it w/o knowing it. Most them told me am different from most girls, am laid back, am not afraid to have crazy fun,am just random, and am a total klutz. I still don't know what's so different about me or what's that spark that strikes so many of my guy friends. What should I do to level it out that I clearly just want a fun friendship? I had so many conversions with them about it but they still act like am single. My boyfriend is getting irritated by it all he hates it how my guy friends come over unexpectedly more than him and how they get me stuff. I just found that as a friendly gesture but now that I look at it .it does seem that most are more attached than others. i just don't want to lose them as friends
You see the funny thing is theyy always get with different girls soo I don't understand why they are more into me than the girls that are actually into them and are actually doing stuff together. hope tht makes sense
i mean my boyfriend has tons of girls around him and honestly I don't mind because I know he wouldn't cheat on me or anything else among those lines
- 3 months ago
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Well jealousy is certainly not a bad thing as he wants to protect the relationship as much as possible.
The best thing to do is ask him to talk about his jealosy and what ways can you help him feel more comfortable when you hang out with your friends.
Obviously negating them from existence wouldn't be a solution but there should be some sort of compensation from both parties. - 3 months ago
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I talk to him constantly about it he just hates the whole idea of me being the only girl and he said that he's afraid to lose me i just don't understand why this is happening now when I was single they were a bit different but now its like something struck them - 3 months ago
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Right listening to him rant about the situation and coming up with solutions are different things.
Maybe you should cut out the friends that do take interest in you and ask them to come back to the friendship when it's mutual amongst both parties. Wouldn't be the first time anyone has had to do this once a platonic escalates to something else. - 3 months ago
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It's easier said then done I have known these guys for a while now 6 to 7 years now and to just drag away from the friendship it would be hard to do and will I just can't drop it because of all this i have to make like 4 separate birthday parties which is ridiculous but if I don't do that there would probably be fight on top of another fight my birthday is monday so 2morrow am making one then sunday and then monday just a get together of it all,i didn't tell my boyfriend cause he would freak about it - 3 months ago
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Well, Quality > quantity. I know I've had to cut people out and it's just part of life once you get older. Time becomes scarce and you'll have to better allocate your time to maximize your relationships to those who matter most.
But, you will learn through experience how to handle these situations. good luck. - 3 months ago
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Thanks ill try to figure something out yesterday I talked with him n' he just started saying ur my everything n' stuff like that the thing is I don't love him I do love him but not the way he loves me n' I told him I need a break n' just all this getting me confused n' lost - 3 months ago
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To be honest it sounds like you think there your friends and to them your just the girl they hang out with who they like they don't see you as a friend because they are attracted to you ! if you told them your in a relationship if they were your friends they would respect this ! I had the same problem with 4 of my guy friends and they laid off when I explained I had a boyfriend and didn't feel comfortable with this and now were just good friends
Well they said they respect it and there was a change for a while but then my boyfriend said that my guy friends are jealous and I kept denying it cause I mean I didn't see anything like they were really attracted to me but my boyfriend total me few things and then I realized they do One of the guys tommy he said he admits it he is jealous of my boyfriend that he is going out with me and stuff like that I just don't understand all this time ............and now he admits that he has feelings, just like the rest - 3 months ago
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I have guy friends with who see me as just there friend these guys see you as more and I don't think you cna change that - 3 months ago
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Idk if that would be possible I mean I know theses guys for years now like 6 to 8 years so it would be hard to suddenly drop the friendship i mean what else can I tell them and what can I tell my boyfriend so he doesn't think am giving hope to other guys? - 3 months ago
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Tell your boyfriend if you where interested in any of them or wanted there attention you wouldn't be with him but you are and you don't want anyone but him so stop worrying - 3 months ago
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That's really good I'll try it on him but knowing him he'll say the same and then whenever ill hang out with them he'll start this all over again - 3 months ago
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He's just jealous I don't think your friends are actually that big a problem it's more his jealousy - 3 months ago
I have a lot of friends that are girls but I am getting kind of sick of them. All they do is create drama. When I talk to guys either they end up...
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