I am around a guy who because of his job, can't be around me outside of where we usually meet. Whenever I am around him, there is like it's only us in the room. He hugs me all the time, notices when I change my perfume, likes to just grab my hand and hold it plus touch me when we talk, and cuddle walks with me all the time. He also has strapped on my shoes for me when I had a problem without asking. He waits for me to finish conversations so he can talk to me alone.
I know he HAS to like me, right? But he will lose his job if he tries to start anything. I offered to buy him coffee one time and he told me "maybe".
Does he have some serious feelings for me and is there a chance that he will make a move one day despite the work restriction?
BTW: He has done a lot of intimate and caring things that I haven't mentioned. I didn't want to bore you.
He seems to be a really nice guy who just can't deal with a relationship right now, I feel a bit sorry for him :/ I think you should wait for him, but do you think he will lose his job? like would he quit his job and find another one for you? It really does matter, because then you know how much he cares about you.
He can't quit the job because it's the only reason he is here in the states. His job is his life right now.
- 4 months ago
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Oh........ well, then, that's even less of a reason to blame him! because if his boss spots him or something, or I don't know, then he might make a bad impression on the boss, because he's being so "foolish" around the building area I guess (I think that's where you said you meet up with him) so like, and also, he probably hates PDA, public display of affection, maybe from previous experience, or he might feel hypocritic about saying to someone before about hating people who do PDA. - 4 months ago
If he is so secretive on the manner of the relationship, then he might not ever make that move.
The way you have explained the guy does have feelings for you, probably likes you too. Go ahead and try building a conversation. Casual introductions outside never hurt anyone :-)
We email back and forth but most of the time, I email him and then he waits until I am around to answer me. It's cute but weird. I tried a casual move at his job and he freaked out. I gave him a kiss on the cheek goodbye like I would my grandmother and he got so nervous that it left him speechless. He quickly said goodbye and almost ran away. I asked him about it and he said he was nervous because of his job. Now keep in mind that I have seen others do this to him and he doesn't flinch. - 4 months ago
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Interesting guy you have there. Really curious to know, what's he working on that makes him kinda nervous when you are around. he flinches when you do that to him, the chemistry does seem to have a negative catalyst... - 4 months ago
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I have to clarify. When we say goodbye, about 50% of the time, he give me a long whole body hug with face touching goodbye. This was one of those times and since my face was already touching his, I decided to give him a nonsensual kiss on the cheek. He turned beet red and started moving his face to thwart my kiss. He didn't back away nor did he push me away. Didn't tell me to stop. either. We stayed in the same position the whole time, hugging, but almost fighting to play out this kiss. - 4 months ago
Adi has a point, so what is his comfort level around you. Around would necessarily not mean chatting in the same group. - 4 months ago
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To me he seems to be EXTREMELY comfortable around me. He pokes me, whispers in my ear, likes to draw things with his finger on my shirt, touches my hair, will rest his arm/hand right above my butt but then quickly moves it like he forgot he isn't supposed to do that, frequently holds my hand when we talk and then will intertwine fingers before correcting himself. He initiates all this stuff, even all of the full body hugs. I figured what's a grandma kiss on the cheek initiated by me, lol? - 4 months ago
He obviously likes you. However, he is extremely skeptical about trying anything with you because of the ethical barriers that have been placed upon him. If he were to try anything with you, or if you were to initiate anything, there would obviously be a potentially career threatening string attached to it. He isn't going to try anything with you mainly for that reason. If you want anything to happen, you will have to initiate it. And if you do, you will need to understand what you are allowing him to risk.
So as a guy, given the feelings that this guy seems to have for me, would YOU eventually make a move knowing that it could cause an issue? Or, would you never risk it? - 4 months ago
That is a great idea but I can't ever get him by himself to see what would happen, lol. He will run across a room to sit next to me but won't say anything to me when he's there. It's like he gets super shy when there is a chance to have a possible one on one. Of course, there are always others around too. - 4 months ago
He likes you, plain and simple. Who knows whether he will make a move or not. He could be shy. He might not be able to because of work. He might not be ready for a serious relationship. He could have a g/f. The only one that knows is him. Talk to him. Maybe ask him, "so what about that coffee?"
I'm scared to ask him about that coffee but I am scared of being turned down, lol. Why would a guy say "maybe" to a coffee instead of "yes" or "no"? He could have even said "yes, but I can't because of my job" or anything. - 4 months ago
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