What does it mean when a girl will sleep with you but not want to date you?

During my single years, I had 2 guys in my life like this. Not EXACTLY like this, but basically. One was/is my best friend. We never had sex but back in the day. Long story. I probably would have but never would have considered him for a relationship. Why? Because for one thing, he was a total player. He'd say all the right things to get a girl and then a week after they had sex he would be bored and onto the next girl. And since he doesn't like confrontation he would stop talking to her and avoid her, screen his calls, the whole 9. The other reason (which believe it or not is actually a bigger reason than his "hit it and quit it" attitude) is he is a total clown. I mean the guy is pretty much NEVER serious. Everything he says and does is about getting a laugh from people and as a result it's impossible for me to take him seriously about anything. I like a guy who can make me laugh (which is obviously why he's my best friend) but it's hard to see him as "relationship material". And seriously I don't know how many times I have said that exact line about him: "He's fun, he's just not the kind of guy you get serious with."

The other guy was a guy that I picked up at the mall one weekend, lol. He was really hot so I approached him. I wasn't looking for a relationship with ANYBODY at the time. I actually did get sucked into a relationship with him, but it was a twisted thing to say the least. It didn't take me long at all to figure out we just didn't have anything in common and a "real" relationship was impossible with us. There wasn't really anything specific about his personality that was to blame like my friend above. In his case we just REALLY didn't get along. Seriously, we fought like CRAZY. Most people didn't even realize we were "together". And honestly I couldn't stand him. He just kept coming around and the sex was good and he was hot and I didn't have any other prospects so I went with it until I found a guy who I actually liked to be my boyfriend.

Since it sounds like this is happening to you a lot, I would think it's probably not a personality clash thing. It's probably something more like the first scenario. Maybe it's hard to take you seriously. Maybe it's something else. But I would agree with everyone else that it seems like you are clearly not meeting anything but the physical need. That might not be "your fault", it could just be a misperception of you by these girls. Or it could be who you are, I have no idea. Whatever the case, when these girls look at you, they see fun. They don't see "boyfriend". And that's what most girls want.

because it's called a one night stand There are some girls that are just physically attracted to guy but not emotionally which is not enough to be in a relationship which means instead of both its just one things

Why not try waiting bit for sex? If you have sex right away (first or second date), they might think that's all you want.

I'm sure you are a fun guy to hang out with. Girls, we look for security and love from guy. If you give out that you just look for sex then that was you going to get it back. We want a guy who is serious and would love us for our flaws. I guess you have to move on and keep in mind that your subtly signs are the one determine your behavior and what kind a guy your are.

You seem nice enough to meet the sexual need but nothing beyond that. Of course, I don't give it up like that so my eyebrows are raised a bit to begin with.

You must not put your true self out there when you meet these girls but are cute enough that they want to at least have you for only one night. If you want more, then you have to give more.

It would be interesting to know if these same girls who have the boyfriend later also slept with those guys immediately.

girls probably say that to you because they only consider you as a one night stand type of deal. If you actually take the time to get to know them then they might consider you boyfriend material. just take your time, and figure out what's right for the both of you.

I've had the same problem. I think it may be because I equate the fact that they are having sex with me as that they love me. I've had plenty of sex in my life, so I think I give off the major sex vibe and girls sense it and are attracted to me and want to have sex with me, but afterwards, they seem to think about it and decide that I'm not relationship material because they are so attracted to me. So, what sucks about the whole thing is that I have gotten a reputation as a gigalo but have not tried to. It's tough once you get that reputation - girls don't take you seriously, and then, they don't even want to have sex with you anymore because they think all you care about is sex and they don't want to get their hearts broken. I'm in the same cycle and don't know how to break it! I feel your pain man! :(

Well, in my opinion, you are probably one of those individuals who gives off the vibe that you are not the kind of a person who can seriously handle a relationship. You are probably not very serious around girls even though you might be the party-type guy.

Thats the first reason, another reason could be that your jokes and conversation is not very down to earth. Even though you might have be great in bed (as girls might say).

My opinion:
Seriously, look at your body language around girls and be a better judge of the girls you want to hang out with. I am no expert but it seems your approach is all wrong. Try to be more sensitive and expressive.

Sounds like you satisfy the physical need but not the emotional and psychological need.