so, I met this guy and we were crazy for each other from the beginning. As soon as the week was over he told me he didn't want a girlfriend because they're crazy, he doesn't need another mom, he has too much on his plate. etc. He did say a couple days ago he considers me more than a friend and wants to see where it could lead. Well, this girl he broke up with weeks ago (who he only dated for 3 months) left a message on his myspace last night saying "my lips miss yours last night wasn't enough" so I confronted him about it and he was saying she was just trying to be funny and cock block. He tries to be friends with her even though he says she's a whore. well after all this he texted me and said "this is why I don't need a girlfriend." this morning he texts me at work and asks me to meet him for lunch. we went to lunch and he was being quiet I asked what was on his mind and he said"im confused" and when I asked him why he paused and said "i don't know what I want to eat." I think it was an excuse to telling me the really reason why he was confused. at lunch he brought up randomly he doesn't want a girl for at least 6 months and all this crap. okay so my question is what is really going through his head? cause I'm not conceited but everyone that knows us tells me I'm the best looking girl he's ever been around and not crazy either like his other girlfriends.
Maybe he isn't sure about how to read and express his emotions. This was my problem for a few years, and I was constantly shifting between solitary/stand-offish and 'i want you around all the time'/'I think I might love you'.
My advice is decide if 'the juice is worth the squeeze', or should you remain good friends? Remember after you cross certain boundaries, staying friends becomes very difficult for most.
You need to move on, He is trying to have is cake and eat it too. If he can keep you hanging around and still play on the side he has the best of both worlds and he has the eternal excuse of "well we aren't dating" or " this is why I don't want a girlfriend" you are dealing with a wanna be player who isn't very good at it if you ask me. I would look for somebody new, you sound like an amazing girl and you should have somebody in your life that should treat you the way every girl deserves to be treated.
The funny thing is he doesn't want to have sex which in my experience that's what 99 percent of guys want. he just wants to chill like go to the pool and kick it or go to lunch I'm pretty knowledgeable of guys who want to have their cake and eat it too, he is a really good friend. I just wonder if he freaked out cause he liked me so much so fast you know what I mean? - 2 months ago
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I understand completely, I was going to ask if you have slept together or not... Maybe he is trying to play hard to get to try to rope you in... Sometimes when guys do like someone to much they try to convince themselves otherwise or try to be assholes to push you away... You know? - 2 months ago
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It was all this "omg you're amazing" and he constantly wanted me around and he was so awesome then it just stopped and that's when he said "it's too much too fast" and "let's see where it goes and we can be really good friends as well" That's why I'm confused. - 2 months ago
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It can be really scary when you feel really attached or comfortable to someone really fast, It feels amazing but kind of unnatural... I would give him his space... Let him call and pursue and don't always be there, don't answer your phone or wait a day or two to call him back... Play a little hard to get and let him know you aren't going to wait around while he makes up his mind... You have to do what is best for you... - 2 months ago
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Well.... I asked him to go to the movies with me tonight and we went. The whole time their and back home we had a fun time and were making each other laugh and it was amazing. We'd be walking and he'd bump into me so I'd bump into him and just bust up laughing. Now I'm confused so should I just let him call or text me first and give him some sort of chase so he can figure out if he wants to be with me or not? I'm the confused one on what is going through his head. - 2 months ago
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I know it is hard but yes, I would wait for him to call or text and be a little stand off-ish when you respond, When he asks what you are doing and do you want to hang out, Tell him you have plans but maybe the next day... Does that make sense??? Let him chase you and that will tell you everything you need to know - 2 months ago
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My perfect first date would be to just relax, maybe watch a movie & of course learn more about the other person. People fascinate me. I would wear ripped jeans & a Ralph Lauren oxford with gladiator sandals. that's my uniform =] ps. aviators are cute too (well, unless its indoors) also I would definitely not wear much makeup because if a guy only likes me with it on theyre not worth it.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I hope he knows that I'm a good listener but definitely talk a lot too. He can hear my favorites list. If I get his too. (no order) Italy, field hockey, cupcake lip gloss, attempting to save the world, animal rights, laughing, reading, my ugly doll, painting, & sunshine. I think he'll also know I'm pretty fun, and definitely unusual. That I really care about things and smile more than I breathe =]
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