Ok I've been bothered by this and I can't really make any sense out of it. This is the short version. There is a guy that I knew in high school, we were friends and we only made out a few times. We ended up losing touch but then we bumped into each other in college. We started talking and hanging out more. I would go to his house and we'd talk for a while then we start to make out and before anything got heavy I'd stopped it. I guess you would call it teasing but too me it was funny. One time I'd figure I'd teased him enough and decided to give him a BJ but before I even did anything he shot his load. I laugh but he said since he hadn't had sex in over 2 years that's why it happened. Which is understandable. Well we tried a couple of more times and each time he shot his load in under a minute. One time I came to his house wearing a revealing shirt and he already had a hard on. When I started to give him a lap dance he was done. Well I ended up breaking the friends with benefit rule where you don't fall for the guy. I fell in love with him and decided to tell him. He rejected me and I was heart broken. About 4 months later he wants me to help him with his problem and in return we'd be experimented with one another trying anything we wanted. The problem was that I was a virgin and he knew this. So 2 months in to the agreement, he was getting better he lasted a little while longer when I gave him a BJ and I was getting more comfortable around him. He always talked about how he wanted to have sex with me and we I finally said yes, he didn't want to. He said that he didn't want to be the one to take it. What did he want me to do? Fuck someone else and then come back to him? After begging and teasing, he gave in and the sex was horrible. He kept losing his erection which I found odd since he never had a problem getting it up and since I was tight, it made it painful and it just sucked. I left and we stopped talking. When I IM'd him he started saying thing hurtful things like "I told you I didn't want to have sex with you" and "I knew I wasn't going to like it" We haven't talked since.
So my questions are 1. Why would he call me and ask me to help him with his problem and then never take my advice. I'd figure he was just being lazy. 2. Why would he say he wants to have sex with me and then say no 3. Why did he stop talking to me
It almost sounds like he is just using you to help him get over this sexual problem but is not really into you for a relationship. If this is the case, you have a choice as to whether you want to continue to "help" him or move on to someone you can have a relationship with. Another option is that he may really like you but is afraid of having sex with you because he is afraid of having a relationship with you due to rejection issues. His lack of control in the sexual arena tells me that he is really not that experienced with sex and therefore not able to control himself very well as of yet. Many guys end up ejaculating prematurely because of inexperience. When a guy is more experienced, he learns how to control this in order to please his partner. However, if I were you, I would be careful to not get too deeply involved with this guy at this time or else you may get hurt. Also, I hope you are using protection so you don't get pregnant unless this dude is good father material. He sounds very immature, however. These are just some ideas - not sure if any of them are the answer for you, but I hope they may help.
He's SUCH a jerk. he hasn't sorted out what he wants yet.probably immature and just trying to hide his frustrations through making everything confusing to you.That's the answer of the first two questions. And the third one: Believe me--whatever the reason is-you're so much better off without him.It's just too bad that he's your first one,but don't worry,you're gonna have much better experiences.After all-it can't get any worse than this. Forget all about him then,after all he's just not worth it
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 5 months ago
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