She got dumped, what do I do?

Well if I were that girl I would want you to be "a shoulder to cry on" when I needed it but if you wanted me to get interested in you then while you were comforting me say something like "well when you give me a shot." or " If you ever let me take you on a date we should go do ." . So I guess what I am trying to say is that while comforting her throw comments in about going on dates with her and wanting to go out with her, that way she starts feeling more than one way towards you while she is healing.

Bro, just let her know you're aware of what's she's going through, and perhaps invite her to come along with lots of friends, like a party or something. But THATS it. Don't let her start balling about all her emotions on you, you're not her emotional tampon. that is if you want to a chance with her.

More importantly, the best thing YOU need to do, is to meet other women that are in a better place. Your focusing too much on this one girl and it's going to come off as try hard, or worse, needy. And if she's needy and you're needy, that's the start of a beautiful relationship of co-dependency (that's sarcasm, you DON'T want that).

She'll be over this guy in less than a month, dating other men or whatever. If you are her best-best friend. ain't no way she's going to want to risk losing a good friend to . "sex". shell rather have that with strangers than ruin such a good supporting relationship. is that what YOU want? I think not.

this is a tough decision because if you let her cry on your shoulder then she will think that you're a good friend but if you are there for her also without the whole obnoxious crying over the shoulder type of thing then that's good also just don't get too DEEP I cannot emphasize this enough you can get close to her but talk to her and cheer her up, make her forget about that guy and bring in something that will get her attention away from the drama believe me it works

Ok here's what you need to do first off do not and I repeat do not let her be your shoulder to cry on that's a number one way to the friend zone, and also her emotional tampon, so what you need to is tell her hey I'm taking you out to cheer you up but don't say why if she asks just say well you don't seem your self lately,and leave it at that. Then take her somewhere fun get the girl in a good mood make her laugh and don't ever mention her ex boyfriend to her or how her break up went, the key here is be funny laughter is the best medicine. Now this is where its going to get tricky, what you need to do is when you see her of course smile, and then compliment her but don't just say wow your beautiful she will prob say thanks or well apparently that's not what my ex thinks since he left me for some other girl. Say something like you know what you have the prettiest eyes I've ever seen or say something about something she's wearing. Then get close to her when your walking maybe tickle flirt with her, remember you want her as a girlfriend not a friend, so act like she's already your gf. Don't let her rant about how she won't ever find another guy and all that, and as for you don't say well hey there's one right here, I'll treat you with respect and I'll be there for you, if you do this she will think wow he's a great friend. If you can pull it off then try and kiss her but if it looks like a no go then don't do it , because she might think this guy is just trying to get with me because he knows that I am vulerable. When the date is over and you take her back to her house say I had a really good time with you tonight, what are you doing next weekend, she might have plans she might not and if she doesn't then say if you don't have any plans then I am taking you out on another date, see what she says, she might say yes or she might say well I don't know if I am ready to date yet. If she says that don't get all mushy and say well I understand, say ok well this is what I am going to do, just for you I will keep my schedule open and I just so you know I sure hope that I see your pretty face next weekend, we will have a blast. Then leave, and don't contact her until Friday to set up a date for Saturday she might contact you before that she might not.

Being a shoulder to cry on is one of the things that comes with the territory. That is, you don't want her to know you as only a fair-weather friend. Having her borrow your shoulder, shed tears and unload her grief - - - well there just aren't many ways to get that close to someone. I don't mean physically, but on a personal level. When you're down is when you find out who your real friends are. The fair weather friend will say, gee that's terrible, well gotta go. Good luck with that.

So which friend are you?