What do you consider flirting?

flirting while in a relationship can bring a lot of problems.my ex (we didn't break up over this) he met this new girl and she started flirting with him and its kinda human nature to flirt back but that's no excuse because if you're into someone you shouldn't disrespect them by going off and flirting and hanging out with other girls/guys

I don't usually flirt with others. But I'm married, not just dating. And that's not even why I don't flirt. I do ON OCCASION flirt with other guys but usually not. That has more to do with me just not wanting to bother with it. I used to flirt a LOT, even after I got married. But I tend to have problems with guys liking me a little too much without my doing anything to encourage them. I'm not entirely sure why this is, but it happens way too much. So at this point I usually find it's better not to give them false hope. It's too exhausting for me, lol.

My husband doesn't care when guys flirt with me because he's a very NONjealous guy and he trusts me. Only time I have EVER seen him get jealous when guys flirted with me was last year when we went to this concert and these guys were dancing with me and flirting with me when he left to go to the bathroom. He wasn't jealous that they were doing that. He was jealous that nobody flirted with him when I went to the bathroom, lmao.

My husband doesn't really flirt either. I think that has more to do with him being RIDICULOUSLY shy and not really knowing HOW to flirt, lol. I have seen him flirt a little or have girls flirt with him in front of me and I didn't care at all. If anything I was usually amused, lol. Flirting doesn't mean anything. Even if it means you find the person attractive and would like to do things with them, doesn't mean you WILL. It's like harmless fun. Playing with a fantasy. The only thing that would bug me is acting on it.

I think one has to decide where the line is in every individual relationship. It's gotta be gauged on how serious the relationship is, how much of a natural flirt the person is, who they are flirting with (obviously flirting with an ex is a bigger deal than flirting with a salesperson to get a discount, lol), and the comfort level of your partner. I'm against the idea of NOT flirting just to keep an insecure or jealous partner happy. But I do think you can make concessions to be considerate to their feelings. Not flirting with a specific person that bothers them. Not flirting in front of them. That sort of thing. But ultimately I think if you are naturally a flirt then you just need to find someone who is ok with that.