Okay so first off, I am going to be a junior in High School. The girl in question is going to be a senior at a different school. I only know her because we work together (Dairy Queen). So lately, she has been calling me and we talk for about an hour each time. At first, we would mostly talk about her boyfriend that she was breaking up with. Then she finally broke up with him and we started to talk about other things. Anyways, she has been flirting with me a lot lately and I guess I return it. Like at work she'll sneak up behind me and go under my shirt with her fingers. So then I'll just do something like hold her waist and whatnot. Nothing too crazy. So one night, we close up at the DQ and we both go to our cars (parked right next to each other). We're just talking through our windows and she goes, "Can I come in your car?" By this time, all of the other employees have left so it's just the two of us in the lot. Obviously I said that it was fine and when she got in we talked about normal stuff and listened to one of her CD's. I wanted to make a move but for some reason I couldn't. It just wasn't getting the vibe. I guess I am the type of guy that would LOVE for a girl to make the first move but that definitely doesn't happen much. I just don't really see myself as very attractive (shorter side, not super manly, w/e). And to add to it, I talked to her last night and she said something how she thought it would be awesome if I was her room mate in college. I'm starting to think that she only wants to be friends. But I don't know I guess that's why I'm here. So girls if I could get your opinions, that would be awesome.
Well, there's good news. If she wasn't giving you the vibe then you're not the rebound guy. Rebound guys are usually someone you talk to and flirt with enough to boost up your confidence and then you sleep with them and never contact them again. If you don't want that to be you then I suggest you kinda back off. Be there for her as a friend, she really needs you right now. More than you probably realize. And if she's talking about being roommates then she wants to keep you around. She's not using you, she's just reaching out and you reached back. You might get a really good friend out of the whole thing. Don't believe me? Ask my best friend. He and I became really close after I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, even though he and I had known each other before. We've been there for each other through it all. I love him with all my heart and he loves me. We have matching tattoos! :-) Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that you could be really great for her and she could be really great for you. Who knows? Maybe down the road your stars will cross and you'll get together. Do you really wanna throw it away and risk missing out on all that?
Relax dude, just take it slow. You guys are seeing each other every day so what's the rush. Just wait and see what happens, if she doesn't make a move then it is hinting that you should. Girls are lead to believe that if the make the first move it means that they are desperate but it is actually helping you right?
You guys have good chemistry so ask her out on a date. To me the girl sounds flirty so take her out to some place fun. Besides she you would both feel uncomfortable when you tried to make a move because right now you're just friends, so yeah just ask her out.
Wow, I hate how girls actually try to be friends with guys. Maybe that sounded kind of awkward but here me out.
I always "GO" for a girl and if it doesn't work out THEN we can be friends. I don't go out LOOKING to be friends with a girl.
I don't want to refer to this as a stupid game but I really think your the rebounded guy, hence the let's talk about what a dick my boyfriend is, and your the nice guy that's there for me, wanna be my roommate, I could use someone like you.
I'm only a junior as well as so maybe I don't have experience with that sort of thing, but there's my 2 cents.
Thanks man. Yeah that definitely could be it but I don't know. Another thing I left out is that another girl I work with who's kind of her friend, said "I think she likes you" to me. It's kind of confusing. The mixed signals suck. - A month ago
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Sometimes you just have to go for it. You really don't have much to lose, and the best time of your life to gain ya know? Don't play the mixed signal game and just get it over with. Ask if she wants to "go out sometime" (don't say hangout, say go out so she gets what your saying). If she smiles and says yes bingo, meet her and try to get closer to her romantically. She's already playing under your short at work so it really shouldn't take that long. - A month ago
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I pretty much always start out with a friendly greeting. I follow that up with a comment or question relating to where we are (club, amusement park, etc...). After that, just find out whether she is there with other people and what they are up to that evening. If the conversation to that point goes well, I then ask her/them if they want to join me/us and take it from there.
How do they typically respond?
With this approach, I have had success (I would say at least 2/3 of the time) and it might have to do with the genuine attempt to get to know them. Its important to display a calm and confident approach because its those brief moments in which a girl decides whether to deny you or is left intrigued by you and is wanting more.
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When: A month ago
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