How do I get my best friend?

Usually I tell people to go for it and go after the person but in this situation I am going to have to go the other way. For one, I think its so cute that you are in love with her because I would love for my ex best guy friend to be in love with me (considering that I am in love with him) but second thing is that you can't mess this up with her and her boyfriend. I no that I would be hard but by trying to get her to like you again you are being very selfish because you are ruining something good in her life. I no I am young but age is just a number. This is the right thing to do by just letting things be. If you really do love her then you would want her to be happy and by trying to win her back that would make her life complicated and ruin things for her. So just consider what I said.

So, you're trying to break her and her boyfriend up? Do you think that would make her happy? Is that what a best friend would do? I would suggest trying to get over her. Date, live your life. Maybe one day she will like you one her own. Their is no way to force it, and, if she can tell you're trying, you might lose her as a friend. Just stay her friend and if it is meant to be it'll happen.

Truthfully, you can't get somebody to like you. It just happens. If things are meant to be. then they will work out. But if you really care for her and love her like you say. and she has a serious boyfriend, then you'd want her to be happy. Chances are, if they are serious then she's probably in love with him. It's super painful loving someone who's with someone else. I was in the same boat. A guy I really, really love and who loves me as well, just so happens to be my BEST FRIEND :) He's so amazing. But, he's far away and I'm not into long distance relationships.so. we're not together. But, he started to date one of his friends and it killed me so bad. I was crying all the time, it looked serious. but then suddenly they broke up. So, I've been there. Like I said, if it's meant to be than it will happen. But you should try to get over her a little bit, cause if not. in the long run, you might be hurt worse.

I hope that this was any assistance to you :) don't give up hope. just be the best, most amazing, guy you possibly can.

You can't. You tried it before and it didn't lead anywhere, so it's clear that she only wants you as a friend. It's a depressing situation to be in, but it's time for you to move on and find other people. As your friend, she wants to see you succeed. Maybe you'll find someone who is an even better match for you than her.

keep talking to her all the time and throw in little hints that you like her. just do what you did before. (But Better) ; )

The guy that inserts himself in a relationship is only successful in the movies bro.

You're just going to have to suppress those feelings, or cut her off completely. If you try to jump into this, you're immediately inviting the guy to initiate a fist fight. Secondly, you're alienating her, because even if you and the guy were to work it out civilly, he could never trust you around her alone, which would essentially mean she loses her best friend.

I'd tell you what I'd do, but you'd probably would hate it.

For some reason this was removed for being a duplicate post. Since it's not, lets try this again.

Second, give this a read:

Cute Girl says:

I like nice guys; that's not the problem. I just met you and you are telling me how much you want to date me and asking for my phone number and I am probably not ready. You just come on too strong and too fast. You come across as desperate by telling me how special and beautiful I am, you tell me you LOVE ME SOOO MUCH, that you will always treat me right, how I'm the one you have always been looking for, how good you will treat me, and all that rubbish.

I'd rather a guy try to get into my pants. If only you would just give me a little time and space, but NOOO you have to LOVE me. So I choose the good looking bad boys. You can slap their face and they just smile. At least with the bad boys, if and when I decide I'm not interested, they don't give a hoot. I'm not going to hurt them.

Like most girls, I’m a compassionate person; I don’t wish to wish to hurt anyone. But if I decide I don’t want to date you anymore, you are going to be SOOO hurt. I can see it in your face, your expression, and body language. You try to get me back, you mope and complain, you point out all the things you have given me, and tell me how badly I’m treating you, or maybe even talk about suicide.

I don't want to deal with any of that crap, let alone most of it. If you give me the slightest indication you are going to be that way, that's it; I'm not having anything to do with. If you act like that, I don’t think you are a nice guys at all, I think you are a selfish clingy bastard posing as nice guys just to get me, the girl. You don’t care about me; if you did, you would be happy for me when I wanted to go because that would be what I wanted. But, no you are selfish and want me to stay and love you even though that is not what I want.

When you want to go bowling with one of your guy friends and he tells you he has a date and can’t go, you would like for him to go but you don’t get miffed or get your feelings hurt. It's hard for me to tell you what you don't want to hear when I know you are so enthused and you will be SOOO disappointed. If you would give me the same considerations you give your guy friends and not be offended and get your feeling hurt, I might go out with you.

Third, give you guys some space, like just stop talking to her for a week or 3 and leave her wondering. When you pop back into her life, you'll want to be more bold with touching, be more sexual, and learn to build attraction. It would also help if you learned what "boyfriend destroyers" are all about.

First, make sure this doesn't apply:

The "Nice Guy"---and Why He's Not Nice
By Dropit

"Nice," as used in the community, is way different than "nice" as used by women.

When the community uses the term, it is a pejorative. But since to most people it's enjoys a positive connotation, I thought a little more definition would be helpful

The "nice" guy likes a girl. He starts by befriending the girl and denying any romantic interest (he figures: I'll prove I like her as a person, not just a romantic interest), secretly taking note of what she likes, and then giving the "perfect" gift along with a confession of his love.

Poor girl! She thought she had a friend, but now she finds out he was just acting the whole time. Alternatively, she is uncomfortably surprised from this lightning bolt out of a seemingly clear blue sky, and is worried about how to save the friendship without hooking up with the guy, perhaps adding to the rejection the caveat, "You're such a nice guy."

Eventually, she lets him down as easy as she knows how (remember, this is a good, kind girl here), and this guy wonders what he did wrong. He certainly didn't do anything mean; his ears perked up when he heard her complain about guys, and steadfastly worked to avoid doing those things. He figures he's being nice.

The problem is that these guys have a sort of male version of going for commitment too fast. A relationship is a 50-50 venture, but he's gone 90-10, and he's basically trying to pressure her into liking him, claiming (or at least implying) that she "owes" him for all he's done for her. He is trying to force her into liking him, she senses the trap, and she splits.

Then she meets another guy. She regards him as moderately attractive (maybe even LESS attractive than the nice guy), and she figures he'd be worth a date. So they go out, and it's clear that they're on the same page---he had an open Friday night, so, hey, he called her up. Turns out he has a rough edge or two, but nobody has to be perfect. He calls her up for a second date, and again, it's clear to both that this is just a date. She hasn't put that much effort into it, but neither has he. At least he isn't trying to lasso her with guilt.

So when our self-proclaimed "nice" guy meets this new guy and sees that he's not working as hard as the "nice" guy did, yet she's dating HIM, he thinks: "What? I worked so hard for her! I did everything I could! I even watched her favorite show so I could find something to talk about! What's wrong? Why is she dating that jerk?"

The so-called "jerk" isn't really a jerk; he simply isn't as fawning as the "nice" guy. But the labels have been assigned in his head, and so comes the saying, "Nice guys finish last."

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