A teacher this year, that taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so I'd always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know each other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was treating me different, I started to realize that sometimes he would flirt with me, but he really never did anything that made me feel weird or uncomfortable but after awhile, he started doing things, like making fun of little things I would do in class, or he would say, "I love you, I just want you to know that.", or you will always have a special place in my heart. and when he saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that. Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly seduced me all year? I just don't know if these "feelings" between us are real?
At the start of the year everything was fine, but the more we got to know eachother, I mean, it just seems like we both developed these feelings, and now its kind of strange, I graduated so I am no longer a student at school and I just don't know why all of a sudden, I find myself feeling this way. Its like as long as I was a student at the same school that he was my teacher I would never have even looked at him like that, but now, Its like things have changed, and I don't know what to think about the situation. He never bluntly asked me out or anything, but a lot of my fellow classmates and other people would always joke about us ending up together and stuff.
I will be 19 next February, and he will be 25 this August. I know all of this must sound pretty stupid, but I just wanted to see what you guys thought, because sometimes people get caught up and don't see things clearly, and I am starting to wonder if this is just my mind playing tricks on me, or if maybe something is there.
Thanxs for the Help!
Update: I don't want either of us to get a bad reputation, and I know that people could think things happened before Graduation. I mean, he told me at the end of the year, that he did like me, and hoped that any guy that dates me, realizes how lucky he really is.
More than a year ago
Update: I caught up with my teacher and when I saw him, it was at school, and he was like.hey you need to look in my office. So I went up there and he had this Pic. of us framed and this sign I gave him at the end of the year. Is that just nice,or just strange?
More than a year ago
I disagree with the people here. While I don't contend that you have feelings for him, or that he does for you, I find it convenient that over time he had all the right words to say. And this statement about "You opened my eyes to giving people an opportunity to succeed."
If that's the case, why did he become a teacher?
He was in a position of authority and he went way over the line, period. From a sheer ethics point of view, the School District where this has happened would have to fire him over this, and not because it's a technical violation. Because it's a BLATANT violation of the code of conduct.
And since he signed up with those rules already in place, he's subject to them like everyone else.
I'm not interested in the age gap arguement either, so those of you that want to discuss, find somewhere else.
At the end of the day, our society has legally awarded you as an adult, both by age and education, so you do what you want.
But I think you should have in the back of your mind his behavior with you as a student. If you're together 10 years later, don't be surprised if the police knock on your door one evening with an arrest warrant. Because at a minimum, someone, adult or teen, is going to take those comments differently than you did.
I agree with you, but what if she calls him and is still interested and her. Is that okay? - More than a year ago
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In my opinion, I don't believe any of it to be ok. There were teachers when I was in junior high and high school that married freshly graduated students. My Social Studies teacher in junior high married a former student of his the summer she graduated from high school. He got a divorce from his wife of 19 years to do so. A History teacher in my high school married a former student of his a year after she had graduated. He started his divorce hearing her sophmore year. - More than a year ago
Based on your most recent update, I do not know how else I can spell it out. This guy has been grooming you since you were underage, and now he's trying to "seal the deal". If this is something you want, then fine. If you really do find it wierd, you'll need to cut off communication with him. - More than a year ago
I think the most important point that you have made is that you have graduated, because if this wasn't the case this would be really wrong morally. I don't think these feelings are abnormal especially since you guys did spent time together outside of normal school hours. The next move is for you to place the ball in his court, contact him somehow and let him know that you would like to continue your relationship with him as a friend and would like to see where that leads to. If you don't get a response then there is your answer. Good Luck
I have heard of a teacher actually marring a previous student before. (One of the teachers at my school) If you think his feeling for you come from the heart and you feel the same, I don't see anything wrong with pursuing him. The age difference isn't that much and you won't get him in trouble now that you have graduated. Just follow your heart and trust your head. (meaning if you think something is wrong, give it a look. People can be cruel.) Good luck!
I am a strong believer in women's intuition. You have obviously been wondering about this for a while.i think that it is likely that you do sense his feelings toward you. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Life is too short to not show your true feelings!
Oh and just for the record, that is not stupid at all! People fall in love when they least expect it.i think its adorable! =D good luck!
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