So there's a guy I like that I work with, and he's going to school at IU in the fall, which is a good 3 hours or so from here, so it's making me hesitant to ask him to hang out, which would mean I want to take it a step further than just flirting and talking at work, but if he's going away to school, I don't know. But aside from that, I am moving to another city early next year (and from where he's going to school, it'll be at least 4-5 hours away from where I'll be moving) and he'll be in school for the next 4 years. Is there even a point in asking him to hang out to get to know him better? Or should I just forget about him and focus my energy on someone else? I mean, it's clear there's SOMETHING there otherwise he wouldn't flirt with me and talk to me as much as he does at work, but I just don't know if it's worth it, since he'll be gone come August anyways. And he's only 18, so I can't see him really wanting to commit to anything that serious this soon.
Keep him in the back of your mind, but move on. Given the circumstances, you'd never have time to see each other anyway. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, even for people who are married, so a new relationship stands almost no chance of holding up.
i wouldn't take it any further, because if you do and you start to like him a lot its going to tear you apart for 4 years cause you will never get to see him. all it will lead to is stress and anger problems
My question is why do you want to commit to anything serious so soon?
I don't want you to reveal your exact age. Based on your age group listed, there is no reason for you to get involved in a serious relationship. Especially if you're moving in the near future. As he goes off to college, he is going to go through many different changes. As you go your way, you too are going to go through many different changes. These are going to involve your values, ethics, morals, your idea of logic, your personal philosophy.
These things play a major factor in who you decide to bond with. I'm not saying that four years from now that you two won't be compatible, but by engaging in a long distance relationship, the two of you are going to put a major strain on each other as you do this growing. Your disagreements will turn into major arguments, and these types of discussions are not conducted very well over the internet or the phone. Plus, with those kinds of barriers between you two, it makes it very easy for one or the other to say something they will regret.
You certainly can pursue it, if for nothing else the experience, but I doubt that your age and his, that you can both do your part to carry a long distance relationship with many outside influences (college being one), and have it survive. It's not you personally, it's a history of failures involving more people than we will ever know.
I'm sure what I have said isn't pretty, but I hope it helps.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but nowhere in my original post did I say anything about wanting to pursue a long distance relationship with him. I was merely asking if it was pointless to ask him to hang out, knowing he won't be here in a couple months, or if I should just forget about him and move on. - 6 months ago
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Excuse me,
I must have interpreted the statement "I can't see him really wanting to commit to anything that serious this soon", incorrectly.
If you're just out to have some fun go for it girl! - 6 months ago
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