I used to work at XYZ, then I quit but still visit there regularly to see my old friends who work there. Friend K always comes up to me to say hi, though I usually try and hang out in his section. K and my conversations are flirty but short and meaningless because I just get nervous I want to leave the situation as soon as I can. I think K likes me but I'm not sure since our last REAL conversation was like while I worked there (a month ago) but still I mean if he's always the one coming up to me (and sometimes he hears my voice so he comes to see what aisle I'm on) then is he into me a lot or just a little?
Update: Also he introduced himself to my really good GIRL friends, but not my guy friend James when I brought him with me to XYZ. He didn't even look at James.
5 months ago
Update: He Has a girlfriend who he never talks about to anyone even though she works there and he never goes and talks to her and you would never guess they were a couple.
5 months ago
Well, he definitely likes you otherwise he wouldn't bother talking to you, that's a give in. If you are a good person a lot of people are going to like you. No big mystery there.
You mentioned he is flirting with you, well that definitely means there is a lot of interest on his part.
Now I sit back and wonder, is this person that is flirting with you on some forum, even possibly on this site writing:
"There is this lady I like alot, I flirt with her all the time and she flirts back at me and SUDDENLY she runs away from me. What does this mean? am I insulting her? does she only want to be friends? please help, I need answers"
Hahaha this made me laugh. Well I mean I call it flirting but we really never reach the banter point in our conversations although there's been moments ( I know, omg) but I leave because it gets awkward from an overload of nervousness and I feel like we might as well both just say "Hey so I like you, cool." - 5 months ago
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Well, you are just going to have to rule out the pointless banter then aren't you? the two of you mean business. You are not going to have standard conversations with someone you consider special, uh uh, not going to happen. When you meet this person again, prepare for special conversation and expect nothing else, the two of you are crazy about each other. Isn't that exciting? You have something to dream about now, it is rare and makes you feel lovely inside. You are very lucky. - 5 months ago
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It's more complicated that but thank you for replying back I appreciate all the help I can get haha - 5 months ago
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Hehehe, you know what's funny? Its supposed to be complicated, it's not like this happens everyday. How often do you meet someone you REALLY like and there is no way you can prepare for it. You are in for a ride and its a fun ride. Lots of fun!!! it makes you feel real good inside about yourself. - 5 months ago
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I know buttt I say we might as well just admit we like each other but I think I like him more than he likes me but hey you know what, he wrote me saying "awww Julie you didn't tell me you had a crush on me, how cute!" and I think "Ok so he likes me otherwise he wouldn't say anything. Or he just likes me pumping his...ego. Or he's an idiot with a flirting problem and a girlfriend"
You're the guy, you tell me. - 5 months ago
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He is definitely being "Fluffy" with you. The ball is now in your court my freind. Now up the ante to see if he is the real deal. Tell him: Yes soandso, I do like you very much. I would really like to get to know you better. When you have some time, would you mind taking me somewhere where we could talk about this? I am free this friday evening.
now you put the ball back in his court, if he is really interested he has to follow up. If he is lukewarm towards you he will make up excuses. - 5 months ago
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Toooo late. I was skittish as to who his sources were and how he found out my crush, so I was like "key word being HAD" and thus we are back to square one. I'm WAYYYY scared about bringing it up again (and yes, I do get what guys go through, I practically think like a guy except for overanalyzing everything) so now what? - 5 months ago
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He is feeling bad right now. I bet he feels like he turned you off by teling you. You told him "HAD" so is feeling down right now. I would be feeling that too. You can't afford to be scared, there is too much at stake. You want him still correct? I am so sure you are in his thoughts, I bet he dreams about you. Wouldn't it so sad if the feeling of being scared robbed you of the feeling of love? Not a good trade-off. I would rather be rejected than never knowing if true love can be had. - 5 months ago
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Where does his 2 year Girlfriend come in during the mix? He surely doesn't seem to b like the type of guy who would leave his girlfriend for someone he hardly knows. and we don't know each other well enough to call each other friends yet. but we're better acquaintances - 5 months ago
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Whoa, lets hit the brakes here. You never said he had someone already. Well, seems to me that nothing is going to happen now. The only thing that is going to happen now is: you are still going to want him and you are never going to get him while he still has a lady. if he is a good guy he isn't going to dump a well known love for someone he hardly knows. If he is a dickhead and dumps her for you, you don't want him, period.
Fear not, these feelings will pass. You will find another opportunity - 5 months ago
Listen to this though, I jokingly called him a loser for having a girlfriend anyway and you know what he said? "I know.." I mean seriously, "I KNOW"? You would think he would stick up for her but he never talks about her even when there's a blatant opportunity. - 5 months ago
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My first gut feeling to what you said was: He loves her very much and he stopped to think about her. he does like you but he feels like a real loser for thinking about you that way even though he really loves her. I think, I feel, you need to back off from him. It is the right thing to do for hi, his love AND more importantly, yourself. - 5 months ago
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That could be, and I have tried backing off these past few weeks. I haven't written him, but I did go to XYZ with my friend James and Jake still approached me to talk, and I've told him I hang out with guys when he asks what I'm doing later, and I never approach him first. So if he won't stop approaching me what do I do? - 5 months ago
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Is there anyway possible you can stop going to XYZ? - 5 months ago
You should overcome the nerves and ask him to hang out with you on a day off. Just spending the day together, away from others will get a lot out of him. And you'll get more comfortable the more he talks about his interests.
And then pretty soon numbers are traded, childhood memories are relived, and a bond is formed. Awwwwww, I think I'm going to blush.
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