It all started with a girl at work I was talking to, I got her number, and we flirted like everyday through texts or in person.etc, etc. I asked her out to lunch/dinner and she said ya it would be fun. she went down to NJ for her cousins grad party, and sent me pic messages and flirty messages again down there, and I did the same. she comes back and we still been talking a bit, and we make plans for thursday(today even though its 1am) and tonight I go to see her at work . all still seems to be going well! then when I leave I get a txt message from her saying she needs to talk to me tonight, I was like UH OH that's never a good thing. seeing as I've heard it in past relationships :( anyway the thing she needed to talk to me about was that she has a Boyfriend and didn't mean to lead me on and just wants to be friends. of course my answer was nice, joking, and saying I understand and if she needed me for anything call/txt me anytime. anyway my question is, could I have done something wrong outta this? or could it be some kinda thing going on between her and her boyfriend and she used me as leverage? all I know is it reaallllly sucks lol. This is the 3rd girl in 3 months that hasn't even given me the chance of a first date. and mind you I know what clingy/needy means and I am no means like that! and I'm an attractive guy so what is the deal! need to know what I'm doing wrong.
Update: thank all of you for responses! I am trying to still be friends with her and all. but as you all probably know its hard to talk to somebody like that when you know you probably won't ever be with them lol.
3 months ago
Maybe by you always just flirting in the jokingly way, they might not take you serious. Now I'm not saying to get completely serious and don't play around, because girls like that. But you gotta even it out, and next time, find out if she has a boyfriend!:)
Oh honey, we all go through this same crap! And it sucks, BIG TIME! I'm pretty sure you have not done anything wrong. She is most definitely still hooked with her boyfriend. What I recommend you to do is stay friends! Go along with it, listen to her, but don't be clingy! And who knows, maybe the tables will be turned to your favor and maybe hit an Ace.
That sucks. But you didn't do anything wrong she is the one at fault. Maybe she didn't think you wanted to date so she was being nice but realized that she was leading you on so told you so. Don't be discouraged just keep on being the nice guy that you are and sure enough you'll find someone that will give you a chance. Good luck
Well, I guess the biggest mistake would be not figuring out if she's single or not before all these flirts. Regardless of if the girl is single or not, some actually love the process of flirting and things.
THink of it this way.if she does end up being your girlfriend, chances are she will be flirting with another guy out there and how would you feel?
sounds like a situation I went through to the T. she called me all the time, wanted to chill all the time, gave me time to see her, said she would bring me lunch one day. she is a hot, hot friend of my best girlfriend. yup. she had a man, they were on the rocks and I was the guy who said the right things and was being good to her. it got so good that I said, since your not happy, come be with me. she said she needed to TALK to him. I guess he did something right cause we hardly talk, she does call me still, but I pick up only once in a while instead of always on the first ring.
it sucks cause you know you can treat them good, and if you get that first date, you know there will be more. lol I'm like that too, I have a great personality, but I was fallen for someone takin
you didn't do anything wrong, cause you didn't know she had a man. maybe she was starting to catch feelings and that's why she told you. if you did know she had a man, you let your heart get involved, and it sucks cause if she did leave him, you know deep down there could be trust issues.
in time you will get that right girl, and if you are a good guy, all of this is happening for a reason and for your best interest(if you believe in god) karma my man! you'll get that right one.
DAMN! I have the same problem my chick sends me photos and calls and texts and all of that even called me up while she was playing with herself moaning and then she said she had a boyfriend yet for some reason she still flirts from time to time so I kinda think its just a chick thing where she likes you and her boyfriend
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