I've been interested in this guy for a long time. I don't know if you would call us friends, close friends, or acquaintances. I consider him a friend but I don't know what he considers us. But he does all of the following (sorry its a long list):
- We wrestle around, play fight a lot and it does get really physical. Sometimes when we're doing this he has been known to pull me by my belt closer to him, if I am trying to escape or what not. - always asks about my family and my interests and what's going on with my life and if I'm upset or non-happy he always wants to know what's going on. - He always offers to help me out when he knows I have bad stuff going on. - He has been known hug or even bear hug and has said some indirect innuendos. - He tickles me and says dumb things and does dumb things around me. - If I'm talking to another guy sometimes he joins the conversation and tries to take it over or he comes over and playfully pokes or does something to me. - He sometimes watches me from across the room and he has been known to chase after me if I didn't say anything to him at a party. He has been known to walk me to my car or at least watch me get in my car and leave. - He sometimes gushes about me to other people and if I'm on the phone talking to someone he'll eaves drop and always ask me who I'm talking to and sometimes asks if its a boyfriend (that I don't even have). - He's asked a lot about my dating status and anything I say makes him laugh so I am assuming I can make him laugh easily. - He has this habit sometimes of touching my lower back or the back of my arm/elbow area and whenever we're talking he always leans in close.
But despite all this and the fact that he isn't like this with anyone else from what I can tell, I just don't think he's interested. I don't know how I can prove it but that's what I feel because he doesn't ask me out and sometimes he just doesn't act like someone's who's interested. Like we could be hanging out and sometimes if I have to go, it doesn't seem to bother him and he just says goodbye and that's it.
For instance last night I was hanging out with him and I had to go so he said "Alright" and he went into the bathroom to use it and when he was done I was talking to my sister on his cell phone. He passed by not saying anything and I told my phone call to hold on and I told him that I had his money (he had no pockets and wanted me to hold it for him earlier that day) and in a serious tone he asked me if I could just put it in the 1st drawer of his computer desk wher his wallet and cellphone were.and he went back into another room. By the time he came out (a few minutes later) I was already at his door (talking on my cell phone) walking out the door and he just came over didn't say anything.and just watched me leave while I was talking on the phone and just closed the door.
So I just get the sense he's not interested. Cuase he tends to act like that sometimes.
Update: He doesn't know I'm interested and before I consider moving on answer 2 questions.am I making a mistake trying to move on and if I'm right about his non interest.why does he act flirty and everything like I listed above?
4 months ago
I've been in your shoes before and my advice is to move on with your life. He considered you as a friend but not good enough to be a girlfriend. I know it sucks but its the truth. You have to keep in mind that many guys flirt with their gals friends and don't take their actions seriously. I saw from his actions that he clearly using you to boost his ego and you fall in his trap by allowing him to do that to you. He knows about your feeling for him and he is using to make him feel good. He is not going to let you go because he likes the idea that you're there for him. Trust me, if you stick around with and if he finds that the girl he really like he going to drop you for like a hot potato. Once he have no body.he is going to come back to you. Moving on and date another guys is the only way out of this situation.
Yeah ok...that doesn't apply. Because he isn't like this with other female friends. Even the ones he's known for years and years...hell he treats me better than all of them. - 3 months ago
First of all I'm telling you he is interested! I've dealt with a guy like this and he doesn't ask you out because he's shy and you've got to make the move and he probably acted really funny when you were on his phone because he told one of his friends or something about you and didn't want you to find out.trust me do not give up on him chick!
The only way to move on is to get things out into the open. I think he likes you judging on what you have said. There are signs of heavy flirting going on! But the only way to move on is to get it out into the OPEN. How can you move on when you might always be looking back on this and saying "what if?" which my guess is what will happen. There is a chance that things will work out in your favour and think how great that might be, don't let opportunities slip through your fingers, and hey if it doesn't work out, at least you know you tried, that's a great thing too, believe me.
Then why did he basically get all serious like while I was on the phone....didn't even say goodbye. Plus at parties or wherever we aren't alone he kinda doesn't really talk to me much anymore...he maybe makes small talk but that's it. - 4 months ago
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The only person that knows that is him!!! Maybe he is a little insecure, go ask him! Best of luck - 3 months ago
Why not ask him? Ask him to go spend some time together one on one. What do you mean by "moving on"? What, to another crush or another guy? Obviously he enjoys your company and he enjoys spending time with you. Based off of what you said he thinks you are a great person.
Just moving on in general...I'm so into him and I have been for a long time but he's never asked me out, and he just acts un interested sometimes...despite the fact that he's done all those things on that list more often than not...I just don't think he's interested. So what do I do...am I wrong about his disinterest? - 4 months ago
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He's either really playful or he likes you. I think he does like you. I would say ask him to do something one on one sometimes. You may find that he is very interested in doing that. Better to try than to not try at all. - 4 months ago
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Ok let's just say he IS interested but then its like he shuts off that playfullness all of a sudden and gets all serious...or if we meet up somewhere...and its time to go...he just ups and gets his stuff and leaves...and its like what the heck..that's not interested behavior. - 4 months ago
Answerer
What? does he say goodbye? The thing is, you cannot overanalyze a guy so much. If you like him ask him if he would like to spend time together. Take it slow. Time will tell if he likes you. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
He says goodbye sometimes but I guess in this case he said nothing cause I was on the phone but even when I put my call on hold to tell him I had his cash...he said in a non flirty (I guess you can say serious) tone if I could put it in the drawer in his desk where his keys and cell phone were. and then he continued to head into the bathroom...and its like Ooooooooooook...serious much...then like I said when he came back out I was stick on my slippers at the door on the phone and he said no goodby - 4 months ago
Answerer
He may have had something on his mind. Don't worry about it. Just get to know him. - 4 months ago
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