Women call me a player or slut why?

WElcome to the world of equality. Women who act like that have ALWAYS been called sluts or some other equivalent term and now finally they are using the word on guys as well.

Some men and somewhat less women are attracted to people who either are that way or have that reputation. That's nothing new either. Again, why complain. It's nothing new

Usually the attraction to 'sluts' is an attempt to make someone else jealous or the like. It rarely means they really like the 'slut' at all. Once you have that reputation you are always going to be a sort of target and people will try to either use you or tease you. In your case, it's women who will be teasing you or using you.

The only solution is to lose the reputation either by doing without dating for a while or finding one girl and staying exclusively with her for a long time, probably at least a year, before that reputation wears off.

I do think there is a bit of jealousy involved. Women cannot have sex with multiple men without other guys telling their buddies to "double wrap it" cause she is a dirty girl ( I know one bartender called a friend of mine "double wrap" because she was sexually active).

So it could be a mixture of vengeance and jealousy like, "Oh I would so be called a slut if I did that, therefore I will call HIM a slut, see how he likes it!"

Be honest--if a woman was as successful with men as you were, what would you think of that girl?

It is this double standard that makes women want to punish men who could get away with behavior that they themselves would indulge is they wouldn't be punished for it.

Personally I think if people are sexually responsible, and not chasing after married men and women, who cares what they do, guy or girl.

Also--women love thinking they got it going on so great that they can tame the bad boy, and suppsoed bad boys are ladies men.

as long as you are up front and honest about what you want ( an don't get involved with a woman you KNOW wants more even if she says otherwise) you should be good. Don't worry about what they say, in fact, as one poster said, if you find a girl who is single and more like you, I think you'll be a bit happier.

I am going to answer this from a very educated view. Woman are attracted to you because you are successful with other women. It gives them an approval for giving you approval, if that makes sense. The reason behind them calling you a slut is because women can be indecisive, they want experienced but reserved but they can't have both. Depending on what you want to be called or can tolerate being called is how you should act. If you want your female friends to stop with the names, them maybe connect with them a personal level, let your personality and you actions become different things. Let them know that even though you're a flirt that you have morals also. That if you really wanted to be serious with a woman you would, but until then you just want to experience a bunch of women. Don't forget, don't make an asshole out of yourself, don't give a woman hope for a relationship if you don't want one. You will get irrevocably labeled as an idiot. Number one tip ever: do not lead women on, they hate it.

-Good luck.

Society has this idea of monogamy stuck in its head. Regardless of our instincts, as long as we act on them society will look down on us in an effort to control what we think and do. They don't label you a player because you're successful (supposedly) with women, but because it's with a lot of women. There's that monogamy I spoke of -- they think that it should be 1 man to 1 woman, and that one-night stands are a bad thing.

I'm not passing judgment either way, I'm just saying it like it is.

If you like the way you do things, try finding swingers or people interested in open relationships. For some reason, and I don't think men will ever understand this one (I know I don't), most women think of sex as some highly-emotional act. As such when you have sex with them (or try to) they think that you belong to them - in a way. They feel cheated and disrespected when you go off with another girl, even if they suspected that you didn't intend to stick around in the first place.

Not all girls are like that, so like I said, look for an open relationship -- that's when you're free to be with other people. You could also try the friends-with-benefits scenario. Some are into that, though most feel that it leads to trouble.

It's natural that you're attracted to women, that's certainly true, but you have to understand that they tend to want something MORE than sex. Because some men are ONLY after sex they get in the habit of refusing to have sex with someone until they've gotten what they want (relationship), which is ironic when you think about it -- getting what you want first, while accusing the guy who wants sex shallow and inconsiderate. Men and women are equally selfish when it comes to matters of the heart. This is why they refuse to sleep with you. You want something, they want something different, and neither of you seems willing to give the other person what they want first.

Find someone who wants what you want, and you're golden. This is the strategy that pretty much everyone is forced to use when they're looking for some type of relationship with the opposite sex, be it long-term or just for one night.