Neverousness when talking to a girl I like?

This might sound strange, but it works. Pretend that you don't like her. Pretend that she is just a friend. Do you have any friends that are girls? Treat her in you mind like one of those girls. You are psyching yourself out. You freak out because you make it such a big deal to just talk to her. Treat her like she's your best bud, and you will feel much better. By the way, do all of this in your head. Don't literally treat her like one of the guys. This is just an exercise to get you to relax around her. She is just another person like you. She is probably nervous too. Good Luck

First, congrats to you for calling! A lot of younger guys these days would never, a lot just text girls. Calling shows maturity and a desire to actually know about the person.
A bit of nervousness can be cute, but to be okay, do a few deep breaths before and then just realize it's only a phone call. Say hey it's _____ and I just wanted to see how you were and if you'd like to go to _____ this weekend with me. Give me a call back when you get a chance and say your number (even if they know it, it's a nice polite gesture).

I don't think I can help you but if it makes you feel any better I am having the same problem. Well maybe not as severe but I can't concentrate or say what I really want to say around this guy. Then later I hate myself for what I said or didn't say and tell myself all about how he must think I am stupid or irritating now because of what I said or didn't say. It is so frustrating because I am usually completely confidant in myself until it comes to this one guy. I feel like an idiot! What the hell is wrong with us?! I hope it helps that you are not alone.

Haha well first off, I don't even think this is a weird question at all! I'd say I'm a pretty confident person, but this used to happen to me when I talked to guys I like, too. And I think it's safe to assume that something of this nature happens to everyone at some point or another.

The reason you get like this is obviously because you want to impress her, and you don't want to accidentally say something that will make you look bad. The combination of the two things is what is making you think too much, get nervous, tense up, and have nothing to say. Whether these are subconscious thoughts or conscious ones, they're there. It's tackling these over-analytical states of mind that will allow you to converse freely without any trouble. How might one go about this? Well, there's no magical answer. (Unless you go to a hypnotist or something freaky like that, but that's beside the point.) What I've found is that the old saying, 'practice makes perfect', applies quite accurately to the situation. Instead of avoiding ever talking to the guy that made me nervous, I would actually place myself in circumstances where I would HAVE to talk to him. Of course at first I would always make a total fool out of myself and suffer the exact symptoms that you've described. But as I continued to put myself in these awkward situations, I began to adapt. After each encounter with the guy, I would think back to my time talking to him and figure out things that I could have done differently/better. Each time I would improve. Eventually I became quite good at conversing with him. And because I was around him more and more often, I grew completely comfortable around him, too.

I know that this isn't the best advice ever, but when your mind/body is acting in ways that you can't control, you pretty much have to train it slowly (but surely). So persevere through this not-so-fun stage, and things will eventually get better.

Good luck! =)

sounds very funny.but also sounds like you like her a lot that you get scared.I had the same experience.I was at work and I'm normally a very talkative guy and this girl comes into my job wearing my soccer jersery of my favorite team.i got very nervous I couldn't talk 2 her lol.its strange I know but its just that feeling .take a breather and tell yourself you can do this.telll yourself your going to try your best to be outgoing.and I'm sure it will work.throw anything you can into the conversation.works well I say