There is a girl in my school, a year below me, which I REALLY like, and I've seen her looking at me many many times, but I have no idea on how to start talking to her. Should I smile at her? Or how would I know if she likes me back? oh by the way I am VERY VERY shy.
Update: Its not that I'm unsociable in fact I make friends quite easily but the thing is that it's very rare when I like a girl so when I like a girl that I don't know I just really don't know what to do, and that's when I turn shy. I've made eye contact.
9 months ago
Update: It's just that I have no clue on how to begin a friendship with her, specifically, and the year is almost over, she seems like a nice girl, but I don't have a clue on what to do, I'll smile and all that, but, What next?
9 months ago
If you know her name, smile, wave, and say "Hey [name]" whenever you see her. When it seems like she would be comfortable with it, ask her questions. "Do you have Ms. Gina? I had her last year. How do you like her?" Soon she'll be comfortable with that, and you can just gradually make friends with her. It's going to be hard to tell if she likes you now when you barely talk, but later it will be easier.
In your school, do all the grades have the same lunch period? If so, have your friends sit at the same table as her and make FREQUENT eye contact. Eye contact is great if you're shy, because they might not immediately think you like them, but it's very implied. Try it!
First of all, you are not an idiot! I have this same problem. I am very shy around people I am not friends with. I suggest smiling first and see her reaction. Does she smile back? This would be good. Does she look at you negatively? This would be bad. If she smiles back at you, then maybe say "wassup?". If she does not know you, then you should say, "hey what's you name?" when she answers, introduce your self and tell her you'll see her later. The next time, make small talk with her again. Just remember to be yourself, never lie, and stay calm and relaxed. The worst thing you can do is tell her something you are not... like if you tell her that you are captain of the football team... when really you play chess or tennis.. or something like that.
I understand that right now it seems like you are going to mess up, but you need to break out of your shell someday! Why not make it be tomorrow? (And by being more sociable, you will make tons of new friends!)
I was once unsociable and shy too, but then my friend gave me this same advice... I was frightened out of my mind when I tried it... but it was worth it by the end!
Look, its time to learn to be assertive. If you like something or someone go after it, and get it. What would life be without risk? You are going to get rejected, yet maybe not with this girl, but its a gamble each time. I was just like you dude, but now I just swallow my nerves and do what must be done.
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