This girl and I have met recently and we kicked it off pretty well and I've asked questions on this site about her and everyone told me that she was showing the classic signs of interest. You know flirty, talkative, smiles, touching, eye contact, body language etc
So a couple days back I was talking with her and she told me about how she had nothing planned this weekend. I suggested that we do something this weekend and she said yea and that I should call her on Friday. Well today I called her no answer so I left her a voice mail, I thought alright no biiggie maybe she's busy right now she'll call me back.
So afterwards I was checking my myspace (I kno myspace ha) and was seeing who was online and it actually showed her haha yea sh***y. So watsup is this girl just using me as a fall guy or losing interest? Y did she ask me to call her friday and then not pick up her phone? Tell me what you guys think, this girl is driving me nuts, I hate these games, if that's what they are, and I usually don't stick around to play them. Should I just move on? Ny help wiould be much appreciated thanks.
Update: Alright Wow I realize that I was overreacting and it makes it wayyyy worst that its now a Featured question. I selected the best Answer as the guy he tore me a new one because that's what I needed.
3 months ago
Update: I thank everyone who wrote something to help me out, but she called me back at night and we went out, Jst shows you how the little things can make a person react differently when they like someone. So no worries now and thanks again.
3 months ago
Wow. Dude. MAYBE, she left her computer on?! Oh my gosh. You're being ridiculously immature. I leave my aim on all the time and forget to put away messages, does that mean I'm ignoring all my friends because I hate them!? No!
And even if that isn't the case, even if she was on the computer, maybe he phone died. Maybe she wasn't aware she received a call. Maybe she's nervous. Maybe she really is busy enough that she can't leave the house. Using myspace is far easier than going out and doing something, if you didn't know, so her being busy and using myspace makes perfect sense.
Also, maybe something terrible happened and she was in shambles. You just don't know, and because you don't know, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS!?!
Good god it hasn't even been a few hours since you called I bet. You're freaking out this much and you haven't even waited a day. I'm sorry I'm not more compassionate, but seriously, this is truly ridiculous.
The way you think is like this, "If the person is online, and I talk to them, and they don't respond right away, they must hate me or want to use me."
Except in this particular instance it was, "I called a girl, barely waited for a response, and now I assume she dislikes me and possibly just wanted to use me."
I hope you can see you're overreacting more than most teenage girls do on their first date.
Ha man I totally agree with you saying I'm acting way to irrational about this. I guess I just needed a kick in the balls to just calm down about it. I like this girl which is something new for me cause I got out of something serious 6 months back and that I thought I wouldn't find nyone like her again. I mean I have been on dates flings but nothing real. Now I have and it's just driving crazy. - 3 months ago
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I mean I haven't been pins and needles about a girl like this in a while and it def. makes me like you called me a "teenage girl" about her as gay as that sounds I don't know its true. And now I'm realizing that I'm def. rambling and you can give a flying F*** about this but its just how it is. But thanks I'll just go look for my balls now and see if I can find them and salvage my manliness after what I just posted haha. - 3 months ago
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Right on man! I'm glad you get it now. I didn't know how you'd take all of what I said, but you definitely took it well, and that's awesome. I really hope it works out, you and that girl. And yeah, there is the possibility she doesn't like you, but hey, that's life, all you got to do is keep trying and you will find someone.
Never give up, never surrender! - 3 months ago
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Yay! I'm happy she called back man! Hopefully we all learned from this, haha. Good luck with it. - 3 months ago
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Yea you think reading a QB plays tricks with ur mind, Girls are the ultimate Peyton Manning. Sry for the sports analogies, but yea I'm idiot for worrying. Happy to that she called back. Yea and I do hope my as embarrassing as this post being featured was lol (can't believe that), hopefully people will learn from my mistakes and realize not to look into things too much at first. - 3 months ago
i know what you mean. when you like someone one little thing can make all the difference to make you jump to conclusions and make you start wondering what's going on, and you get confused and overreact. after things are good again you start thinking "man why did I overreact like that what an idiot" and then you do it aaalll over again hahah, but! that's life I guess
maybe her phone sucks. I had a very bad phone and hardy ever got any text or messages and guys that would call thought I was blowing them off when I was interested. myspace her! its always nice to know the guys interested.
Ha umm well my friend had a small thing so she came over wit a friend, we just hung out got to know each other a little more things I guess are starting out to be slow which I'm fine wit. Right now I'm going to do it right get to knw who she is first you know b4 jumping into nything. She just got out of something recent so I'm not assuming she wants to get into nything just yet either. Thanks for askin though. - 3 months ago
I'd say move on. If she comes around, great. If not then your not wasting your time. Dont waste time worrying about this girl, if she's interested, she'll make sure you know! If not, she could be using you for attention (girls like that sometimes, I should know)
She may just have missed your call. Talk to her online or try ringing again.
seems to be like your over reacting quite alot. So she didn't answer, I miss calls to, and if she doesn't have credit she can't call you back. So maybe she signed in online to see if she could catch you?
Just ask her if she's online! If your settings don't let people know when your online she won't know until you contact her!
If she talks but doesn't want to meet and doesn't seem interested, don't make a big fussed. Just move on, she'll either show you she's interested or let you move on.
um I hate to say it, because I HATE it when guys do it, but just let it go and pretend like it's all good. Do NOT call her anymore though because then she'll know how bad you wanna talk to her, and unless she likes you on the same level, that's not a good thing for her to know. So just try to get in the back of your mind. I find that when I let things go and forget about them, it turns out good usually lol
shes probally playing with your emotions. she wants to be in control, or she doesn't want to seem to intrested in you, cause she probally likes you alot. you called her like you said you would, I would give it 3 days if she doesn't respond to your actions move on. don't let her hold you down on a leash. your better then that. or you could just talk to her about it.
I think you should just wait it out. Its only been one night so in time if she doesnt' call back try calling again and asking what happened. If she does have interest she might call in time. Soon enough you will see if she is playing a game. GOOD LUCK!
I think you need a little more patience. so what if you called her and she wasn't busy? Maybe she had something to do, maybe she had something on her mind, maybe she didnt' feel like talking to you.
It might not be games so much as nerves. You know, guys aren't the only ones who are afraid of losing their independence. If she didn't call you back though, she either is nervous and doesn't know what to do, or she's not interested. Maybe something else came up even. Either way I would call her again and if she doesn't answer then that's the last time you call, afterwards you wait for HER to contact you so you don't look like a chump trying too hard. Best of luck!
Guy,i think this gurl just trying to test ur patience.i want you to stay cool and just pamper this gurl till she feels like this guy is really down for me.If you really like her whay not wait and endure cos love endureth everything and patience moves mountains so take heart boy.thats what happens in the rome and juliets films!hahahaha
yeah. I hate those games too. I'm tired of them being put on all the time when sometimes you just want to ge to the point. . yes or no. would be fine. and about the call. well you could always try call again. its usually best to call maybe two times different times. if that don't work then oh well. maybe next time you meet with her just ask her what happened and don't act mad, just be curious :P
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