I have a guy friend who I've known all my life. Our moms both taught at the same school, and so we sort of grew up together. But, he was always one year ahead of me in school, due to summer/fall birthday differences.
In elementary school, I never saw him much, unless he was telling me a joke after school while we waited in our moms' classrooms, and in middle school, I only saw him on the bus. We rarely talked then. Jr. high was similar, but once I was in 9th, I saw him all the time. We both played alto sax in band, and were both in the AP program. (We even held chairs 1 & 2 every year in band.)
He would always come to me if he had a problem, would tell me jokes, walk with me through the halls, etc. We grew a lot closer during these years than we had ever been, and I started to like him as more than just a friend. When I *tried* to flirt with him, though, (I'm not very good at it-LOL!) he would turn beet red and couldn't look me in the eyes anymore. However, soon, he was back to himself and trying to either talk to someone else or talk to me about something else. People would approach me and tell me they could tell I liked him, even his friends, though I was never one to "chase" a guy down.
Well, nothing ever came of it in high school, and after he graduated, I tried to get over him. I went through my senior year, and even dated one guy for a few months. In the end, I graduated, and that fall, I found myself at the same college as my friend - IN THE SAME CLASS. We started eating lunch together every time we had that class. He'd walk with me, I'd walk with him, etc. I obviously still liked him, and this time, I thought I was getting better signs that he liked me.
No dates or anything out of that, either, and that school didn't work out for me, so I transferred. Now, it's two years later, and I'd only seen my friend in passing. Never spoke to him much, and now that I'm back at home working and figuring out what I want to do, he's moved to go to medical school. HOWEVER, I went with my mom to a football game at my old high school, and my friend's mom was there, to watch her younger son march, and GUESS WHO'S THERE.
Over two years of not talking, and I thought I'd gotten over him this time, for sure. I don't think I've ever been so wrong. All at once, I felt happy to see him, excited, and sad for not having been around him. After half-time, I walked to him and sat down in front of him to talk. I knew he was looking at me, even when I looked at the game instead of him. He'd quickly dart his eyes back to the field, though, when I turned to him. He made me laugh with some of the things he said. He let me lean against his legs. Even tried explaining football to me.
Do you think he likes me? I'd love to go on a date with him, but I don't want to make it uncomfortable to be around each other. I'm very shy, and even when I talked with the intention of asking him out, I got so nervous that I couldn't even talk. Any ideas? advice?
.Thanks.
Update: I called his house the next day and his mom answered. She said he'd call me back, but he never did. Do you think she just forgot to tell him, or did he not want to talk to me? I don't want to give up, but I don't want to make a fool of myself, either.
3 months ago
Update: Why did I even think he could like me? How could I have been so stupid?! I went to the football game tonight, and as soon as I sat down next to him, he looked at me like I was the most grotesque thing he ever saw.
3 months ago
Update: Then, he walked off to join some skinny girls, much prettier than I'll ever be, without even ONE WORD. Even a simple "Screw you!" would've been better. I thought he was my best friend, but I've finally figured out that friends AND guys are overrated.
3 months ago
I love my mom dearly, but she makes a lousy answering machine. I lost 2 job interviews once because I counted on her to deliver my messages. that was before cell phones were cheap enough for everyone. now I only count on her for sunday dinner.
Haha...His Mom isn't known for being the best answering machine, either. Though, since they were going to his little sister's soccer game in a few minutes, I get the feeling he was standing somewhat close, and she probably could have told him.
I really just need to stop thinking about this and maybe call before I go to work tomorrow. Gotta call fairly early, though, since his little brother is in marching band and has to go. I'd hate to interrupt them again by calling at a bad time! lol - 3 months ago
Answerer
Unless your ugly, no such thing as a girl calling a guy at a bad time. he can hit "pause" on his xbox! and its not like he needs an hour to wash his hair! - 3 months ago
Question Asker
Lol Maybe not to him, but I don't want to be a nuisance to his family, either. After all, it's usually his mom who answers the phone, and if she's not home, his dad does. If no one's home but him? He's sleeping. His mom mentions it when she's on the phone with my mom. I think he's actually answered the phone once that I can remember. And the only reason he wasn't sleeping then was because he had his calculus final to study for.
I swear, I'll never know why phones are so taboo to most guys. - 3 months ago
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And I'll never know why its taboo for women to ask men out! so there! lol - 3 months ago
Yeah, I know I should have already asked him out. I just tend to overanalyze things, and pretty much talked myself into a panic. Not to mention, I've not gone on many dates that weren't things like Prom and carnivals, and even then, *I* was asked. Asking him when I don't even have a clue where to begin scares me. If only he were still in town. THEN I could call him. I emailed him once, but he was never one to check his email often. Any ideas on how I could approach the subject next time? - 3 months ago
Answerer
Well, I'd skip the email idea, I never had any luck trying to email a girl for a date. nice thing about being a woman is that you can get away with more that a guy can, such as a surprise visit to his place with a home cooked meal. if that ain't a sign I don't know what is. - 3 months ago
Question Asker
Well...considering his place (dorm/apt...not sure which-didn't get the chance to ask) is about 4 hours away, I'll have to settle for his parents' place-when he's home, of course...and that's if I don't turn dinner into charcoal. lol I don't really have much cooking experience, besides baking cakes and making quick quesadillas in a skillet. Now, those are my specialty! - 3 months ago
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