I don't know why I keep having this hot and cold feelings about her. We've met in class about a month back (i'm in college) I knw she is interested I mean even in class will have conversations and flirt a lot. I'l make fun of her for being clumsy for dropping something and she will do the same to me. She showed up in class minutes b4 it started and was like hey come sit over here next to me and "Kim" there's an open seat. I'l grown and make a sarcastic remark about it you know just messing around to make her feel bad for makin me get up which obviously doesn't work she jst says shut up and do it ha sarcastically.
Its like I just can't fig her out. Like we only had lunch once her me and her friend. And even then I couldn't stay that long cause I had to go to class so it was like 40 min but 20 was consisted of me saving the table cause it was ridiculously crowded at the subway, while they ordered food and then me getting up when they got their food so I could order mine.
I mean don't get me wrong we have had tried to make plans she more or less suggest things for us to do. I mean when we first met she was the one who gave me her number which is diff. for me cause usually they'll ask for mine and then suggested that we should do something. But when I called she was working and ended up returning my call by texting me at night and by then I was already out and we couldn't meet up.
Another thing I guess that bothers me is the fact that il be the one to initiate outside conversation I only called her once but we have been texting each other for about 2 weeks you know just chatting. but I'm always the one to text first. She has yet to initiate the communication outside of class. In class though she always is the first to say something to me cause she and her friend always show up 2 min b4 class starts so she'll say hey and smile ask me how my day has been so far.
I guess now I'm jst tired of the chase if that's what it is, and now I have mixed feelings about what her intentions are I mean she shows all these signs of interest but the fact she seems to kno more about my life and interest then I do about her and that she has yet to initiate communication outside of class kind of bothers me. I know the basics about her but now its like I don't know if I'm just losing interest and feel like I'm putting in more the effort or is she just being nervous or shy about calling me back instead of texting me or actually being the one to text me outside of class instead of me. I don't know with that I just feel like I'm being annoying to her if I'm always the one to call or text her first. Shouldn't it be some what equal. I don't know I guess I just needed to vent about it but any ones opinion would be great.
Update: O I forgot to add this to why I feel like I'm losing interest. Today for instance we will usually after class will hang out and talk for a little about plans for the weekend so on.
3 months ago
Update: But today I was like I don't know feeling like I didn't want to stick around so I just said bye and left she was like bye and wait but then I turned and she was facing her friend so I just walked I don't know stupid decision maybe.
3 months ago
it sounds like you need to have a talk with her and tell her your thoughts that you wrote on here. Otherwise it will drive you nutty, like how I did to myself, but I eventually told the guy what I was feeling and thinking and he really appreciated it. So sit down with her and tell her your thoughts on this.
Wow I feel like I'm acting like a girl about this ha but its just so different for me to feel this hot and cold feelings about the situation. - 3 months ago
I don't see any problem here. She even gave you her number. You did not even have to ask for it. Normally a girl only does this if she is REALLY interested. So, you asked her out once and she was busy. Big deal. Things like this happen all the time. Call her again if you like her. It should not be that much of an effort if you really like her.
It is normally the guy who initiates dates when you have just met. And yes, you have just met. You know each other for only a month. Another point: On the one hand you write she is the one suggesting to hang out and on the other hand you write you tired of the chase. Sorry, but does that not make much sense to me.
I meant by the chase is yea it seems like she is chasing me I don't know really nymore, I guess the fear of rejection if I'm reading these things wrong then it would be akward to be going to class but then again if I dnt ask then il never know so I guess I have to just take the chance, thnks though. - 3 months ago
I think you might just be getting tired of the chase. It seems like your not to sure what stands where or you don't really know if she is interested in that way or just sees you as a classroom friend. She may just be shy and feel weird being the one calling and in texts she can say something without any awkward silence or getting embarrassed. I would suggest texting or calling her and asking her when she is free and if she wants to do something to text/call you back. That way you put it out there and if she is interested she will answer you. On top of that you will find out if your still interested (when you all go out) or not. ^^ Hope that helps.
Yea its kind of funny I did this same thing and that's when she texted me back later at night and I couldn't meet her up - 3 months ago
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Hmm well the best way to tell if your interested is to set up a date and go. Maybe next time you call make sure you ask for a day you know you will be able to go? - 3 months ago
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Yea il fig something out I guess I just needed to vent I guess. - 3 months ago
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