Hi- so I am a new user to this webpage and frankly I am very excited as it seems to be the perfect portal for opposite sexes to really figure each other out! but here's my dilemma- I have a crush on this guy.and I have read I think just about a thousand articles now on "signs that tell you he likes you" and in every one at least 70% apply to me.meaning: yes I do catch him looking at me discreetly he's always around all of a sudden in the one place I hang out every night he's a bit shy/gets flustered when he talks to me he keeps the convo going even after I'm done.and all of that stuff he also got just a little physical by grabbing my hand and then just kinda brushing my back. now he's never had a girlfriend and is very shy so I know asking someone out (lets say me lol) would be a BIG deal.but I know he has mentioned to a mutual friend of ours that he would like help meeting girls and finding someone that would be right for him--- we get along great. and stuff better than great like its really comfortable after I get over my initial jitters to go sit with him and just chat.but I really want this to move forward---since he is so shy I don't know if that is going to happen or how fast? and I don't want this to die out either before anything actually happens? so what do I do. and then the other day I was by teh computers and I noticed he was sitting with a friend and the weird thing was his friend was looking at me(checkin me out) while he was discreetly talking to him.i noticed this out of the corner of my eye.so I don't know and then a few times his friend kinda walked around the area where I was sitting-- could be a coincidence.but idk.seemed a bit fishy? and I got the guts to text him last night and luckily he responded within two seconds.but should I continue texting? I want him to be the initiator.like I don't want him to get freaked out because I keep sending him texts adn stuff.isn't that supposed to be the guys job? lol please if someone has experience or could help me out it would be great! I really like him.and I just want things to work out! what should I do next.if he's to shy to take it to the next level.and does it seem like he likes me more than a friend? - jess
Update: Thank you guys! nothing has really happened over the wknd but if it does I guess this lets me update the people who responded! thanks for your advice and help! 3 months ago
Update: So a bunch of us were going out for ice cream today- like our mutual friends and I invited him. he said he couldn't go because he had to go to church and will take a rain check instead- I'm guessing that's good because at least he wants to meet again!
3 months ago
hi jess, I'm Jesse too, welcome to the site. I'm glad your glad to be here. I found this site just like you did, so yeah,lol, I think that's cool, lol, haha.
I think if I was in your position, he's going to be nervous in asking asking you out probably, it happens to all of us. But if I was you I would start flirting with him physically, like when you and him are walking - bump him with your hip in his hip (I usually bust someone's chops with this, like when I see a chair coming up I'll do this. Lol, I won't actually bump her into a chair, but just make it funny), it's suggestive yet subtle. And he should pick up on things like that and reciprocate it. And try to joke around with him, laughing makes people less nervous, usually. Creating inside jokes is always good. And then invite him to do something cool that you're doing. Now you guys are hanging out(cross my fingers,lol), the rest is up to you and him. Hope it goes good.
Lol, that sounds good. I'd make a joke about an expiration date on the rain check, lol, but I just joke around a lot. I'd actually just pick that date of the expiration to be a date that I wanted to do something on, and try to plan something on it with 'em. - 3 months ago
this guy definately seems to be into you, and is showing many of the signs that he wants to be more than friends. Being a shy guy I can say from expirience that it definately helps if the girl does little things to show interest the brief touch, eye contact and a little flirting never hurts, but the guy should be the one who takes the intiative and asks the girl out, to help him along though you can give hints such as "we should hang out sometime." this kind of statement will let him know you're interested without you saying it directly.
It's obvious that he likes you, no doubt based on your description. I have to say though if you do in fact like this guy, please do something about it! I can't tell you how many times girls have said they are interested and "think" the other guy is interested and end up doing nothing or let the guy struggle to figure out how to ask you out or whatever. You don't have to go over to him and kiss him, but maybe give him a little friendly push or bump into him, give him the eye, smile.give him signs that you like him. Also, don't be afraid to text him about going to see a movie, have lunch, or study (etc). As far as the friend is concerned it could be that they're talking about you or his buddy is trying to be the wingman. It could also be that he likes you as well, but I wouldn't bet on it. Anyway, the point is if you like the guy don't make him do all the work, if you feel the same, there is no sense in making him do the hard work. Hope it works out for ya!
First of all, it does seem like he likes you as more than a friend. He is very shy and probably keeps to himself and as you said hasn't had a girlfriend. He is just trying to get a handle on things and is deciding about becoming more than friends. Everything that you mentioned leads to him liking you. You also said you want him to do the initiating, perfectly normal. While I know you maybe have the itch to ask him to do something with you, he should be the one who asks. {as you know} What am saying is that unless you get super desperate and have to ask him, leave it up to him to do that. He is shy and seems to be taking a slow approach to the relationship and still trying to learn the ways of dating/relationships. {nothing wrong with that} So maybe you can get your mutual friend to give him a little nudge to ask you out to something. It doesn't have to be big, just go to the movies, or go lower than that and just go get a drink somewhere. I can sense your eagerness for him to ask you. Just try to see him on a normal basis, just be around him. That will at least let him know that you are, at least somewhat interested {from his point of view} just by being around him. A girl wouldn't waste her time if she didn't think there is any potential. Anyways, unless you have to make a move {that's up to you} let him make it happen. Just try to hang tight, and in the process get to know him better, get closer. Hope I helped, send me a message if you have any other questions.
I think from what it sounds like he likes you! but since he is shy it will probably take awhile for him to make a move, and pushing him too fast might make him back off because he is shy, so you will probably have to be patient when it comes to him coming to you the way you want. Hopefully its worth the wait, good luck!
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