This guy and I have a crush on each other but we're too shy to do anything, usually we only act awkward and make eye contact. Recently I put in the effort to give him a book that I know he'd enjoy (it's right up his alley).
I gave him the book on Friday, and on Monday he asked if I needed it back. I said sure, bring it back anytime (he'd seen that I had it signed by the author, knew it was important). On Wednesday, when we pass by in the halls he said he brought it in the morning and it was at his locker, but we don't have classes together so I didn't know how to even drop by.
Basically. he has my book, and I'm getting the feeling he's holding onto it on purpose because he's more flirty/confident now, he's playing some kind of game. Do you guys understand this? Is it a good thing to let him "keep it for a little while" to create this "pending" feeling? Like he "owes" me something? What's the logic for doing this?
He had opportunities to give it back, and could definately create one to, but he's doing it for a reason and I'm not sure why. any ideas boys?
You see, when a boy likes you, he won't shy away from lending you anything he possesses, and even something his friend lent him, he'll lend you anything. This is not the case in a situation when he doesn't like you, because he sees no point in doing you any favors if he's not interested in you on a higher level than just an acquaintance. If he's holding on to a book of yours that you borrowed him it means he's just trying to keep a little part of you with him. He's into you more than you realize. He wants this book with him. It reminds him of the fact that you do care (since you lent it to him), and that he's got something of yours he can treasure for a while.
I had the same SAME situation recently. I borrowed him the book, and he kept it for a while then gave it back. But he gave me his guitar pic so I'll have something of his to keep. It's kind of an exchange of possessions which is metaphorical for the fact that he would like something more and this allows him to feel like you've promised him something.
WOW, THANKS A MILLION for your help!! Our flirting has turned into brief eye contact from across a room (and intentional positioning of seats) and a game of acting aloof, intentionally ignoring each other. When you wrote: it reminds him of the fact that you do care I hadnt even thought of that, because it makes so much sense that my behavior might sometimes make him doubt, and my boldness in showing I cared was a shocking thing coming from me.
Thank you SO much for all your help =) - 3 months ago
Maybe ask him if he would like to talk about the book sometime with you or if he has any books that he'd think you'd like. You could ask him if he'd return it to you over coffee or lunch. If he has a crush on you I am sure he'd be really happy if you went out with him for coffee or lunch.
wow, your looking a little too much into this, and feeling this way isn't going to help you if you do open the lines of communication eventually. What you have to do is relax, act like he can keep the book for all you care. Often times you lead yourself to believe something because you want too. He could've just forgotten to give your book back, it's not like he has your wallet or car keys. take a chill pill and assess the situation from the outside before you go and say something to him that is going to ruin it for the both of you.
I don't care if I get it back. I haven't mentioned anything about it, and I want to know if it's a good sign that he's holding onto it? Maybe? - 3 months ago
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