My ex boyfriend and I recently started talking again as "friends". We work together so it took a long while before we got to where we were. He basically screwed me over and lead me on for a good 3 years. It was ugly after we parted ways. I had a lot of growing up to do. My hate for him & struggle to move forward took a long time. He ended up dating a so-called friend of mine who went behind my back and dated him. She was in the midst of getting a divorce but it wasn't final. She left everything she knew, her family, church, friends, community, and moved into his house because she was disowned. She claimed to be very religious but she basically sinned by doing all that she did. She stopped talking to me and then I knew why. He always played the nice guy role. Would do anything for anyone. Anyway, the ex and I started emailing each other recently. He actually took the first step by complimenting me on what I was wearing and somehow it lead to a flirtatious conversation. After that we had a couple more emails with each other in the last week that have been getting a little more sexual. I know on my part, I am probably doing it for revenge on both of them (which is sick). But, My QUESTION IS.if he cares for her so much and let her move in (WITH HER KID) because of her situation, what does he want with me? The thing is. he always said I was the BEST he had ever had. I mean we have gotten down and dirty everywhere. We definitely had trouble not sleeping with each other even after breaking up. But now, he has someone &supposedly it's serious. Why does he still want to sleep with me? The emails and messges he sends me are so detailed in what he would love to do with me and how he wants to try new things with me. After all the hurt he put me through & then to find out he is now with an ex friend of mine. I would think she was worth the fock, if he let her move in. What does he want with me? I told him I knew he missed what we had but why wasnt he sastisfied with what he has now? He then told me that he was honestly satisfied but it was just the excitement of talking to me. He said he was probably just all talk. Trust me, if he were all talk he wouldn't have grabbed my ass twice already. I know he wants to just hit it. I know, I'm not right to respond to his emails but I couldn't help it. I feel like Karma's a bitch both of them. I mean I could literally RUIN her life and his by letting her know that he doesn't just wanna f*ck her but he wants to f*ck me too. And badly. Of course I'm not going to do it but I wanted to know how he can care for her but want to sleep with me. Would you have someone move in with you if you were "satisfied" ?
screw that guy he sounds like an ass. prob doesn't care about anyone from the sound of it . forget him. or do it and mess them up. I might do it but that's just me : P
AHHhahahahahahah.. He is a dumbass (although sex was great) but I don't care for him emotionally anymore. I just couldn't figure out how he could be capable of screwing her over too. My goodness I think I feel empathy for her. I think I need to forget both of them and not talk to him ever again! Thanks for the advice :D - More than a year ago
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Ya moving on is probably best. better things await. - More than a year ago
Wow I'm going through the same and the worst is that he moved downstairs with his girlfriend .... but this guy calls me all the time jer... off over the phone ,,,def his not getting enough at home .. honestly I'm not f*** him but we do see each other once in a while and hook up . and I don't feel guilty cause obiously he can't get over me and I don't think he cares about he's girl otherwise he wouldn't be risking his relationship with her. if I was you I would def get back at them - More than a year ago
Dont forget that karma is a bitch!!! and especially if the girl that he's with right now was ur friend, do the same she did but don't stay with him just do what you have to and move on ... you don't need a scumbag in ur life . make her feel 5x what you felt see if she likes it!!! get back at me I think I need an advise too lol good luck - More than a year ago
I too have been in, still in, sort of the same kind of situation. My ex boyfriend and I lived together for five years, dated six. He decided he "wasn't feeling it" anymore and broke up with me. Denied any involvements with another women. I was confused so after a couple days I went to his new place. He was in the kitchen and his sister was talking to a woman at the table. I met her once a year before at his family's fourth of July get together. She is the Aunt of the Ex's Nephews girlfriend. She looked at me like she was going to s___ her pants! I asked if he was seeing her. He said, loud enough for her to hear, I'm not seeing J*****! Said I was a liar, couldn't give me one example of my lying, I was a cheater, made some remark about my boss touching my butt. I had confided in him about this a couple of years earlier. I left in tears. I should have been more mad but I was too crushed. His sister in law told me the day after that he had started seeing her right before we split up. I called and left a message I knew what he was up to, could have just been honest! I left it at that, I had no intentions of contacting him and I didn't. He called me two weeks later. Said he never dated her, just hooked up with her one time and that was enough. He hadn't been a cheater or a liar the six years we were together or the five years before that when I knew him. Turned out, he came over every other day, called every day. I made a point not to initiate anything. Nothing! Two months went by before I found out he had been seeing us both. I called his girlfriends neice to see if her Aunt knew what he was doing. His girlfriend had told his family I was threatening her. So, I ended up defending my self agains't this lie. Two years later now. She's moved in with him. He told me she wanted to move in, but hadn't. So, I slept with him, left his girlfriend a message to call the next day and told her everything. A few weeks ago, my ex and I met for a drink. I drove back because he had more to drink than I had. He wanted to come home with me. I told him no. I took him to his place. He wanted me to come in! I told him that was too weird. You see, he pretends that he is not with anyone when he talks to me. It's really strange! I decided I would go in, he was saying, "Don't you have to pee? Just come in for a minute?" So, I went in, straight to the bathroom. His female cousin rents the loft so any female stuff could be hers he figured. He showed me the place, all but his room. I didn't even ask. He did his usual flirty but I didn't bite! A couple nights later, he wants to see me. I told him to come over. We decided to go for a drink. We go out side and in my driveway is a brand new suv! I asked whose it was? He just ho hawed around. I asked if it was J****s? He said yes. She was working. We go out on a date in her new SUV!. I finally started seeing someone else. I can't wait to turn him down! You tell me what's up?
He is flirting with you because he can and because you are engaging him. Give a horse a carrot, he will eat it. He also wants sex wtih you, doesn't mean he wants a relationship, or he wants to get back with you, or that he loves.it's just sex. Maybe the sex he had with you is not the same with this other woman, so he wants it from you. A man will take only what is given to him. What he is doing is not right, but nonetheless common.ever heard of the Married man having an affair, same thing. My advice, stop all communication with him. Or at least the flirting. If you want to chat, be his friend, ok.nothing more.
Ive had this one happen before, the whole " I don't wanna be ya boyfriend anymore, but can we still f***." The answer is obviously no. He only wants you for sex, that is kinda obvious. If you f*** him, your a whore. He has a girl. He just wants sex from you and obviously isn't getting enough at home. lol Don't have sex with him, trust me. It will be the worse thing you ever do. It won't help you, and it defiantly won't help him any. To me, it seems like he will say anything to get in your pants. && If I were you, I wouldn't want to satisfy him, he wants to cheat and that shouldn't fly with you. &&&&& He obviously doesn't care enough about her if he wants to sleep with another chick.
God, guys are such dicks sometimes. I hope his gurl finds out about this. LOL
Yeah, I know he is a dick.. I guess I think about...the revenge aspect on my ex friend and the ex boyfriend. I've been thinkin about it a lot the past couple of days..and been feeling guilty. I think that I should tell him we shouldn't talk anymore and if he cares that much for her like he says he does, then he should focus on her instead of focusing on f*cking me.
Thanks for advice~! - More than a year ago
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Your welcome. Hope you get his ass. lol not literally. - More than a year ago
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