There's this guy who lives a few houses down from me and he always stares at me whenever he sees me (intense stares) and he's always smiling at my mum and dad (but he never smiles at me). I've never talked to him and this eye contact has been going on for months. Then last weekend he went and got a girlfriend! I feel so stupid for thinking he liked me and I feel confused. Why would he make it very obvious he liked me but then go and get a girlfriend-did he ever like me or was he just messing with my head? I'm soo confused. I was building up my courage to ask him out but I can't now but why didn't he ask me out? Thankyou for reading.
Update: I found out yesterday that he hasn't got a girlfriend anymore but now I'm thinking what was all that about because it only lasted a week?!
More than a year ago
Ok same guy again. Lol I think I'm the only guy on this question page. Lol. You see when a guy likes a girl especialy one he doesn't know about, he creates a fantacy around that girl. This is why even when we get a girlfriend its hard to shut our feelings off for that person. The fantacy we create usualy has to do with the girl being somewhat enchanted. Meaning that everything she does seems magical. Even the way she walks the way she moves,the way her hair flings back. This is probobly an illusion because of our strong feelings for the girl. ( I say probobly lol cause I am a guy and still view women this way myself. Lol) This girl I once knew up at Lake hopatcong I had a major crush on. But for a while I didn't know her that well, just the soft sound of her voice and what she looked like. I used to look at her house from the other side of the small road she was on. Her house was in the middle of the woods on an island on the lake. I had a house on the other part of the island. But she was the only house on this road. So I would look threw the trees and see her house. I would think to myself what a magical mystical person. But part of the reason I felt this way was because I only knew so much about her so I filled in the gaps with the male fantacy of women hood. Its the exact opposite of sexism and its something almost all guys do. We kind of turn you into Arwen Evenstar from lord of the rings. And you know how hard it is to ask someone like that out. Also it makes it very hard to stop liking you cause you are like this magical princess to us. Guys don't talk about this phenomenon with other guys cause it doesn't sound manly. And we don't tell women because we don't want to come off as wimps to women either. But this is very real. Its a flaw in men in how we view women that we don't know well that we like. So you see for him to stop liking you would be like you to stop liking the knight on the white horse who comes to rescue you. What I just told you is one of the biggest seacrets of manhood and being a guy. But its realy a major compliment to the mysteries of womanhood and how we view women. :) so its hard to stop those feelings. :) :)
Thankyou sooo much for replying again! It's really helped me understand and thankyou for letting me in on that secret :D - More than a year ago
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Hi again :) I need a bit more help lol. I found out last night that this guy isn't going out with that girl anymore-but I'm confused because their relationship only lasted around a week. Now I'm thinking does he just get a girl, do what he wants with her then gets rid of her or do you think it just wasn't working between them? Because if I approach him now I don't want him to just split up with me after a week like he did with her. lol sorry if I've confused you. Thankyou :) - More than a year ago
What Guys Said
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When: 11 months ago
Yes I honestly do think he likes you. Often little looks or glances mean we have been thinking about you for hours. Ask this guy to do something. If you do I have a feeling he will say yes. The signs are all there. When he looks every noe and then but not all the time its only fear of rejection and fear of turning a girl off. Cause a lot of girls complain about clingy guys. Go for it. Ask him out and I believe you will be very happy with the answer. :)
Ok Its me again. Lol I'm the only one who can read your update cause no one else answerd your questions. Lol but that's ok 1 person is better then no one. I will do my best. Ok it seems like he didn't have strong feeling for these other girls. That doesn't mean he will feel that way about you. There are girls I feel blaa about and girls that triger that whole male fantacy thing. Now what you need to do is ask him out. But you need to get him to feel all romantic about you and not just into sex. Sex is good but if you get him to fall romanticly in love with you he won't leave or cheat or anything bad. The guys emotional side of the brain and sexual side are not connected with as many blood vessels as a womans brain. So guys can get very sexual or very romantic. We just have trouble doing both at the same time. To get him on the romantic track (what I'm about to tell you is one of the big seacrets about how guys think so don't use it against us to make us feel bad or tell other girls ok) after you ask him out draw pictures of hearts,write him poems, make him hot chocolot, pictures of happy faces, drop a clover in his top pocket and smile, rub his back 2 strokes when you think he needs comforting. Don't be afraid to write a love letter, ask him to have a picknick with you. All this will get him to fall in love. Guys love this quality in women but we can't talk about this to guys or girls cause we don't want to come off as wimps. I only tell girls on this site about this but not girls in real life. I would sound like a totla wimp if I said this out load. Pluss I used to play football so nope I'm not gona say hey hun can you draw me pictures of hearts and happyfaces. But in my mind and in guys minds we love women who are like this. Remember guys are attracted to femininity. We are sexualy aroused by girls with sex appeal because its physicaly feminin. We fall in love with sweet girls cause there personality is so cute and feminin. Do these cute feminin things and he will start to fall for you. Even cuddling during a romantic movie. It will give him a feeling of like butterflys in his stomach and a warm tingling. This is the love for you flowing threw him. So when girls ask how does a guy fall in love with a girl. Well this is how. You may not hear this from another guy again but this is the sign. When he looks at you head slightly tilted gazing into your eyes with a look that says your so adorable. That means that he is in love with you. :)
Thankyou sooo much for replying again-your advice has really helped out :) you always write really good answers so I really appreciate it. I was worried that he didn't like me anymore since he went and got a girlfriend because it seemed like he was trying not to make eye contact with me but then yesterday I saw him and he was looking at me so I'm hoping he's still interested-do you think he is? - 11 months ago
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When: More than a year ago
Same answerer. I can't leave comments from this phone. Ok its harder to ask a girl out in passing a stranger on the street. Its much easier to ask a girl out you met threw a friend. And its slightly easier but still hard to ask out a girl at a party or club. Buty that's still hard. But asking out a stranger is the toughest. You gota go total cold turkey. I once wanted to ask a girl out on an airplane. Didn't have the guts so I wrote her a letter. Even handing her the letter after the plane landed at Newark airport was very,very, hard. I was nurvous half the flight cause I had written the letter with like 20 minnutes left before landing. And I didn't want to give it to her till we landed. Guys don't want to come off like a stalker cause girls get turned off by that. And you feel kinda crazy but you sometimes have to bite the bullet and ask the person out. But it is realy tuf. If you have any more questions about guys you can send me a personal mesage. I will get you an answer withen a day or 2. Because this phone is retarted. Lol I am ranked 2nd in flirting. Good luck to you!
Thankyou again-really appreciate it. Sorry I don't know how to send a personal message lol. Just one more thing then, I could understand he was too nervous to ask me out because I felt the same but does he not think how I feel seeing him with his girlfriend because he still always stares-it would be easier if he stopped with the eye contact because it just gets me confused lol. - More than a year ago
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When: More than a year ago
He probobly did like you. But thought maybe this girl doesn't like me back. So when you didn't say anything to him he figured you were not interested.
Thankyou for answering and this did cross my mind but if he can ask this other girl out then why didn't he ask me out? I know it isn't down to the guy or anything but he is more confident than me and he didn't have a problem asking the other girl out. - More than a year ago
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