Hi I have this coworker who I'm friends with. We're both single and lately we've been spending more time with each other. At work we're usually together hanging out. And outside of work we've spent time together.he usually asks me.once it was with another coworker but the rest of the times it's just us. He's been flirtatious more than usual with me lately as well. I also get a vibe (I could be totally wrong) that he is jealous of one of my guy friends. The issue is that we're from different religions and that's an issue for me as I can only marry someone from my own religion and he is well aware of that. He is also aware of my boundaries as I do not believe in physical relationships before marriage. So I do not understand what's been going on b/w us lately. He's spending quite a bit of money on me when we go out to places. He even cooked for me though it was simple I was impressed with the effort. So far he hasn't made any moves on me. I was thinking if all he wants is sex then he would have put a move on me by now. Is he just being a really good friend who flirts with me? Or is he that respectful of me? Now you may all wonder why it matters to me as I see no future with him but I do see him as a friend and want to keep him as one so it would help for some insight. Thanks!
I advise you to be 100% honest with this guy. He sounds like a nice catch if you were fishing, but it sounds like you are not fishing - at least for someone of his religious background. He may have the idea that you will change your mind regarding your religious restrictions or your "boundaries" regarding sexual relationships before marriage. You need to tell him in no uncertain terms without any ambiguity that you cannot be with him in any way shape or form other than as a "friend". (The term "friend" was always a death sentence for any amourous thoughts and feelings I had for girls.) I believe he is that respectful of your convictions and might (big might here) even offer to swing your way with regards to religion if you would have him. I am not sure, but it sounds like he is in love, or at least falling in love with you. Be gentle if you have no desires for this guy except as a friend. If he is in fact in love or falling in love with you, it will kill him just to be a "friend" with you, and the relationship may fail if there is no hope of increasing the level of intimacy beyond a simple friendship. In short, he is courting you in hopes of winning you over. You have a shot a guy who sounds like he would walk through fire for you. The question is will he come out and tell you his true feelings when you tell him it will be ONLY friendship unless he were of the same religious persuasion? Be prepared for him to bare his true feelings for you. I could be wrong here - he could just be a really nice friend, but I do not think this is the case. Good Luck to you (both - I like happy endings).
Really?....i wasn't expecting a response like that. maybe I'm blind to what's going on? it's still hard for me to believe he feels so strongly. I didn't mention this in the original question but he displays himself as a player though I don't hear of any actual current gf's. but I know he's had quite a bit of gf's in the past. maybe I'm just another number? - A month ago
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