Approach anxiety

The trick ( and it is a trick) is to approach in a way that doesn't seem as if sex is the only reason why you are approaching. If you notice something of interest--like a book she is reading or an activity she is engaged in, you may be able to strike up a conversation with her. You will know within a few minutes if she is interested or not, and can move on.

Courtesy is always a good ice breaker so if she is struggling with packages and trying to open the door help her... once inside ask her if she needs further assistance. She may not respond at that time, but if she thought you were sweet or cute, she would definitely remember you the second time around. You could even say "What? No packages today huh?" something like that--girls like the idea that you remembered them and she may take a second look.

1. Yes--a guy can approach me in a cafe or club if he is sincere and respectful ( no lines please)-however 2. If it looks like a girl is studying do not approach--this is seen as rude to most females. During church--no. After church--yes...

There really is no wrong place to approach and if the girl sends a signal she isn't interested move on. the fact that you were respectful may make her seek YOU out--I've done that a time or two...

Good luck hun--u seem like a sweetheart, so it could work out for yah!

1. Yeap, I'd like that, if the guy is anything near my type. :) If isn't I wouldn't be so interested and maybe try to end the conversation, don't want to rise anyones hopes.
2. Well maybe a cafe, like you said, if you are in a queue after a girl, you have a change to talk about daily things, or just about the cafe. Or about some doghnuts, you both are eating. :D
Amm, other than that, maybe like train station, buss station, taxi pole after a bar night, school.. There are lots of places.
But absolute no no is library, it is akward, 'cos if the girl doesn't want to talk loud. :D
And like maybe grocery, 'cos she might have to by some ladies sanitary towels or something. :D
And I think that not clothing stores either. You would be on different sections, so it wouldn't be so smooth.

You assisted me and now I will return the favor.

1) As a woman, I am uncomfortable personally with a man approaching me when I am alone.i.e. a parking lot, garage, walking alone etc. I am concerned that he may not be making small talk but may want to harm me. I have no idea if this guy is a psycho and wants to rob, rape, or kidnap me.
a) In addition, when I am out somewhere and I am obviously with another guy, it's a bad idea to hit on me. It's disrespectful to me and the person I am with. It's also a huge turnoff because it demonstrates to me that the guy has an inflated ego and thinks he can land anyone.
b) If you obtain my cell #, it's also a HUGE turnoff if you call or text constantly. It send out a message that you are too clingy or desperate. It's cool to call or text to say "hey" maybe once a week.

2) If a random guy approaches me in a public setting (i.e. a club, a bar, a cafe etc.) I do not have an issue with that. It is truly appealing when a guy approaches me with a great big smile and says something like "Hi, how are you? Can I buy you a drink, coffee etc. Would you like to dance?"
a) Other okay places to approach are: Church, Class, when I am with friends (this one may be a little intimidating for some), grocery store, etc. You get the idea.

3) In terms of your approach, try to smile, be friendly and natural with the lady. There is nothing more flattering than a confident, smiling guy coming up to me and saying "hi." It makes my day and smiling is contagious. I would definitely chat with him and see what he has to say.

Good luck in your venture!

It’s fine if a guy just approaches a girl out of the blue, as long as there is context to it. Preferably that you have seen this girl before and you both briefly know one another, then there is less of an element of surprise. Of course, if you want to have a girlfriend, you have to seek them out. Public places that you most likely will encounter your possible life-time mate, let’s see, perhaps at school, college, sports center, gym, mall, coffee shop, etc etc, the list goes on. As long as they aren’t drunk and all crazy, it’s all good. Lol. The next thing is that you have to at least look the girl in the eye when you talk to her and try not to sweat too much if you want to talk to her. Of course, you have to be confident. You have to seem confident in yourself because that is a trait that confers that you are secure, hence, I would think you weren’t a weakling (something along those lines). And confidence is attractive also. But please don’t be a cocky asshole because no girl wants a cocky asshole. That aside, talk to her. Find questions to ask that aren’t closed-ended so that you actually have a conversation. Please don’t say stupid pervy things, because generally that’s a turn-off. Also pay attention to any motions that she shows that she really likes you too ie. Smiling or blushing. If she doesn’t like you, then don’t over-talk or whatever. Take it easy and try to set an opportunity to meet her again if you are interested in this girl.
Other basics to address; keep your hair nice, generally nothing funny on your face is good and that you're clothes aren't all wrinkly and messed up, you want to have a good lasting impression on this girl that you like and are approaching.
Generally speaking, any place is fine, it's the way you ask and the manner that you approach a girl is the most important. For some guys who've asked me out, what they say within a few minutes of talking to me not want to ever see them again in my lifetime lol. *_*
Generally public settings are ideal. Generally people would like to talk to you if they aren’t busy. So like say the girl might be a barista at the cafe and you think she’s hot and you want to talk to her, don’t do it when she is super busy. This is mostly common sense. Also, personally, I wouldn’t like it if a guy came up to me when I’m dining with my family or when I’m studying for an exam or something like that. Anyways, just take little steps towards meeting your ideal girl and I’m sure you’ll find her. ^_^

I hope my advice helps.

1. Yes there is nothing wrong with approaching a girl, you don't seem like the sleazy type, so approaching them in a friendly manner is a good idea. Some women may not like it, but just walk away if they are like that, they are not worth your time of day if they are not friendly anywa.

2. I don't really think it matters too much where you approach, except maybe dark alleys, womens toilets, dark parks and funerals :)

It is totally ok for you to approach a girl out of the blue. Its actually very nice and shows her that your interested. Ofcourse it depends on how you do it. I think you know what's acceptable as far as things not to say. Nothing vulgar or dirty and no cheese such as corny old pick up lines. If you are a shy guy, it might show a bit but that's not such a bad thing either, it can be cute. Definitly try to be yourself. Even if your shy, being yourself kind of shows some level of confidence. There aren't too many places not to approach. If its a place you wouldn't mind being approached at than she would probably be ok with it too. Good Luck

I get so flattered when guys approach me out of the blue. It makes my day! Even if I am not interested, I would never respond in a negative way unless they did it in a gross or rude way. I don't like it if I am in the middle of a conversation, but if I am with friends and the conversation is slowing down I would love a guy to come over. Public places are usually the best, I think you should look at body language to help make a decision.

Oh this is great! We should meet! I talk to random strangers all the time, just for fun. And I seem to attract these people as well. People are always starting conversations with me. Personally, I think people who do this are interesting and if they do it correctly, they immediately catch my attention. Yes, I think it is ok if a guy approaches me out of the blue, but not in a weird or creepy way. None of that pickup line crap or anything cheesy like that. Maybe a comment about something relevant to where we are at. I think it's all in how good you are at starting a good conversation and how nice and genuine you seem. If it seems like you're trying too hard, forget it. But if you're just very casual, I'll be right there with you enjoying the talk.

I don't think there are weird places to do this, but I'm an incredibly random person and really enjoy this kinds of stuff, so who knows? Maybe there are places this shouldn't be done.

I think it is incredibly flattering when a guy approaches me out of the blue. In fact I wish it happened more. I think the only time when I might find it a little "weird" is if I was clearly busy with friends, but other then that anytime you feel a "connection" I would say act on it. If she reciprocates, fabulous!

It's totally fine for a random guy to approach a girl. Just try to be as comfortable as possible in your own skin (ie be confident). Usually a hi and smile works. If you're at a store, you could always ask a girl advice on what to buy. Also, making eye contact could help if you're really nervous about walkin up to random girls, initially. The whole eye raping thing, as I like to call it, is a pretty good indicator on whether she's interested or not.

Good places are stores, coffee shops, lounges, and parks.

Bad places are the gym (for me at least because most the guys there are sleaze bags) or anytime you see me running around in a hurry.

I would say that it is fine to approach a girl at café, grocery store, church, bookstore, etc. In a parking lot is a very BAD idea. Believe it or not I've had a couple of guys approach in a parking
lot. Don't stalk her if you do you will ruin any chance you have with her. Girls like animals if you
have a dog take him or her to a dog park. It will give you something in common with her. I'm NOT saying go buy a dog. But if you have one take it a long. Last but not least look the girl in the eye it will let her know that you respect her and your feelings are genuine.

Heres what I think,

To many guys I'm the girl you can't approch, many times if me and the guy ever end up speaking, the reason was because I made some sort of initative,apprently I'm quite "intimidating". Most of the time there reason is they thought they will get rejected, which may be what you may be thinking. So here's how I see it for guys with this problem. Before you make any type of conversation with a girl make sure your noticed! The worst thing you can do is approch someone that doesn't even know your presence. If this means going over to casually grab a pack of chips as she does, then perfect. I know when I see a guy is cute I usually will keep looking to see if he is looking and what not. If I'm with a group of girls its usually ten times more obvious because we all start looking and then we get pretty much bagged. You also have to make she doesn't have a guy. I've had time I've been out and I see a guy and were makin eye contact and what not, you can tell weve caught each others attn, and then a girl pops up and is kissing him all over, not good. I think you can approch a girl in any place or any siution given there's NO guy, and she KNOWS your presence. No girl I know that's into a guy will act THAT shy that you won't be able to tell if she's into you as well. If you make your presence she sees you and you never see her make eye contact or anything like that, then there's a good chance she's just not interested. So that's what I think hope it helped ! =)

oh and p.s.
make sure when you approch her, have something clever to say, il give you two examples of good and bad.

Good- I was in the school parkin lot waiting for a spot I see a guy entering the parkin lot, he saw me I saw him, we made eye contact, he told me which direction his car was so I could take his spot, but just as he was leaving the one next to me opened up so I took it, so he drove around the parking lot pulls up next to me and goes "u lucked out look at all the spots now" I giggled and he said "well I guess I'm just your good luck charm" and pulled away. He left me smiling, and wanting more. Too bad I never saw him again! But that was a perfect chance to continue talking more

Bad- In the store before I was using my debit card, after I slide my card, the guy walking by smiles and goes, "is sliding the card fun?" hoesntly, if I was there with one of my gfs we prob would have all cracked up laughing not because he's funny, but what he said being sooooooo stupidd, that turned me off REALLY fast!

So make sure your approch line is good, because as you can see we remember! haha

1. I think a random guy approaching me from out of the blue could either be flattering or creepy. I would make sure you get the girls attention first, eye contact etc. and make sure that it seems like she could be interested. Some things that would also make it less creepy would be if they were with a group of friends and you were with a group of friends and there was a mutual friend that could introduce you somehow so it's not so random

2. Places that would definitely be ok (in my opinion) would be like a club, a bar, or a party, because those are places you expect to go to meet people.A café would be a place where I would definitely use your best judgment on initiating the conversation considering it's a more intimate setting

some things to consider when you're going to talk to her are
1) be confident - girls like confidence in boys, and are more likely to respond
2) be prepared - think about some things to ask and then go with the flow from there
3) be yourself - we can tell when a guy is putting on a show, so knowing that he's comfortable enough to be himself helps us be more comfortable in our response to you.

hope this helps : )

I think approaching people is fine as long as you do in a respectable way. I can't stand when guys walk up to me and say "What's up baby" or "Hey Ma". If you approach me in a respectable way, then I will gladly say hi to you. My only advice would be that if you see the woman is clearly not interested, be a gentleman and walk away. If not, it just becomes uncomfortable for both of you. Also, if you are going to talk to her, just do it. Following her around deciding if you are going to say hello or not, becomes creepy. I've had this happen to me. By the time the guy said hello, I was freaked out by him.

The only major no no I can think of is hitting on someone you can clearly see is with someone else. It's just disrespectful.

heres a good trick, especially with when you're publicly speaking: try imagining everyone around you in their underwear, or even something funnier, trust me this works, it starts to make you laugh, that way when you're approaching her, you don't have a straight face on (making you look almost scary in a way) making it easier to approach her... try it sometime, laughter is one of the most important keys to being able to talk to not only girls but people in general

hey can I suggest acting more indirect when talking to them. asking them for an opinion on something, ask for some help, or makeing an observation on something and making it sound like your just speaking your mind. then build a conversation on top of that. then introductions some small talk and a little getting to know each other then some later contact info. sad but true most good looking girls don't like being hit on so its best to disqualify yourself as just some horny guy that's trying to get some :D. but if your going to be direct just say hi and act normal don't try to impress her and act layed back man.