Need some advice on flirting

fliritng? hmm. there are different meaning of that word. hahah! well. just give back what he did. hmm. if he smiled at you. smile at him. you'll never regret that you smiles. after all. nothing bad will happen if you smile back at him. right? :)

I'm in the same boat as you and I have never been kissed either. I don't have social anxiety though I am shy lol! Flirting takes practise - even for outgoing people. Show a guy you're interested by smiling back at him, laughing at his jokes, teasing him (playfully of course!), asking him questions about himself. Be as confidant as you can, its hard but its also key. The guy will probably be nervous as well. Just be yourself! Good luck, and hopefully you and I can score nice guys!

Eye contact is pretty important. It can feel a little too forward or scary for a shy person, but just one or two second glances straight into the eyes reveal a lot to a guy about how you feel about him. Smiling and laughing is good too. If they're teasing you, call them a name (loser, a lame, etc.) but laugh as you say it so they know you're just playing along. Let's them know that whatever they're saying to you is working, you're responding positively.

There are times when you could tease him back and such, but that stuff just sort of pops into your head spur of the moment, don't worry about the fact that you can't think of something clever. Instead, try to ask questions about him, where is he from, what are his hobbies, what does he have going on for the weekend, etc etc. This isn't exactly flirting per say, but it does let him know you're interested enough to learn more about him. It's the shy person's way around not being so smooth with the flirty words. :P

Just remember, the guy flirting with you is most likely clamming up a little inside too, he doesn't know how you're gonna react to him. So just make sure you let him know at least nonverbally that you're enjoying his flirtations, that way he'll know he has the go ahead to stick around.

Hope this helps! I definitely know where you're coming from, that social anxiety disorder is a challenge, but not an obstacle. It's totally possible to work around it and snatch up some awesome dude! Good luck! :)