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How To Win Over Manipulative Guy?

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If a guy is being manipulative into making it looks like you have to come running for him all time, what does it mean? Does he likes me that's why he's doing it? How could I exposed him for doing so? Does it worth it to play his game?


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6 months ago

He probably likes you. And it could be many reasons he is doing it. Men are phobic of women controlling and using/playing them or wasting their time. So, a lot of times men want women to chase them. Second, a lot of women subconciously walk away from men who chase them back or tell them that they like them. So, he maybe trying to keep you interested because he likes you. Chase him and see what happens. But, don't get overly involved too quick because it might drive him away or worse, make you vulnerable to being played. So, yes chase him but preceed with caution. Both women and men alike play these games. At the end of the day, these games are just about judging someones interest and trust and honesty.

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Question Asker
6 months ago
Thanks for the warning, I don't think I will be doing that again after all, I don't really have any close guy friend after all. I saw his pupils dilated while he talked to me (I read its a dead giveaway sign that he's interested in you) and before we parted ways, he told me he will be outstation next week and looked over his shoulder to give me a wink + nod + damn sweet smile... He's definitely dumb if he can't see I'm so into him :(
Answerer
6 months ago
Be careful with the other guy thing. It can help sometimes but it can really backfire other times. Just happened to me a girl did that and nothing ended up of it because she kept doing that and I didint know what she wanted with me. Jealousy will make some guys try harder and many times too much of it will drive a guy right away, especially if they really like you. Be hard to get as far as chasing someone. Let them come to you sometimes is what I mean by that. But, chase him sometimes too.
Question Asker
6 months ago
I totally like him, but like you said, I want to let him know I'm chatting with him friendly smiling along, is because I like him a lot, but at the same time to make him feel like 'okay there is someone who's interested in her as well'... Do you think I'm doing it right? Actually the one who calls was like my normal friend, I just make it sound suspicious to him after all. After my phone conversation, I saw him staring at his phone (he doesn't even have my number yet!)

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Question Asker
6 months ago
Well today while talking to him (he seems like in a rush at that moment, but he waited to hear my concern about the prob though) and I received a call from a guy friend asking to meet. As I told him that I need to take the call, he waited patiently even though he was really in rush. And at moment my friend ask for dinner, I purposely repeated the word back so that he could know I am not just into him (just to keep him guessing a bit whether he got me in his palms or not).
Answerer
6 months ago
It really depends on the guy. You should pursue him, but be casual about it. That way you give him space, aren't too predictable, but show interest at the setime. But, be conservative with game play, many people get too carried away. Personally, I hate these games, but I've come to accept its just the way the world works. Not everybody that plays games is a player either. Some players actually don't play games at all. They fake honesty. Many good guys just play games to protect themselves.
Question Asker
6 months ago
Thank you for your insight :) So if he created a situation whereby by hook or by crook I have to go to him for a solution, is it just shows that he wants to feel like he's dependable or what? and will he like it if I just ask his help like he anticipated?

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titoloco

6 months ago

You cannot win over. But you can choose not to play.

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sully21

6 months ago

I don't know the entire situation which would give better incite to what's going on, but I do know manipulative people are users. They will do anything to get what they want without caring about your feelings or well being. Its a selfish and greed act that benefits him. So I say be aware of his motives and don't allow him to feed his selfish ambitions. I would confront him before your in to deep

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- Question Asker
  6 months ago
  Thank you for your insight :). But what if in our situation, he's more of a giver than taker? I mean all this while it takes me only little effort to ask something from him, and he will do a really good job in no time. Doesn't that show he care? I mean he might be a bit manipulative into trying to make me asking for his help, but he really helps me really well if I asked for it, he really delivers... In this case, he doesn't gained anything apart from time to talk to me.
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goodguysfinishlast

6 months ago

I am not a big fan of those games. I would call him on it.

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kheserthorpe

6 months ago

It means he's a player.

If he's a serious player, he has 10 other women on the side.

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- Question Asker
  6 months ago
  so you are suggesting that he might have interest in me that's why he goes all out in helping me with problems that he somehow manipulated me into right? I met him today, his eyes is grey so normally I could see the pupil like really tiny. But today, when I talked to him, the pupils dilated, I read somewhere that if a guy is interested in you, his pupil will dilated if he saw you (as being excited or happy, not sure which is which).
- Answerer
  6 months ago
  Well, if he's only doing it to you, and if he's trying to get you to come running to him for non-romantic/non sexual things, that's actually less 'player'. "Players' actually avoid being 'mr reliable' and try to keep themselves as being the fun/cool/lover guy.
  
  Trying to make himself helpful is more a standard move guys do when they lack confidence and want to get the girl to like/appreciate them. They doubt they can be liked/appreciated for who they are so try to set up reasons to be liked
- Question Asker
  6 months ago
  thank you for your warning :) I will keep that in mind... but so far I didn't see him behaving the same around other woman, maybe I am wrong, he seems like he doesn't care much about others. But I will look into it.

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5 months ago

He's playin a game
Do you want to deal with that?

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