Was it inconsiderate of acquaintance to confess his crush?

He risked making things awkward between the both of you for the sake of taking a chance. Don't girls like guys who take a chance, just put it all out there?

What confuses me often is how girls get angry at guys who reveal how they feel. I'm not accusing you of being like this necessarily, because working 8 hours a day with someone is quite a big deal.

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Would you be able to enlighten me on why, for some girls, a close friend admitting his feelings is suddenly "selfish" or "inconsiderate"? I mean, that's kinda what you do when you're interested in someone. But everyone nods in agreement when she says he's a total jerk for liking her. Am I missing something, or is everyone just afraid to speak up against drama queens?
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But yeah, it's really up to you whether or not you make it awkward from here on. What's done is done. He had those feelings, so all he did was speak the truth.

Also, there's a major type of thinking you should avoid here:

"Luckily, I'm able to be normal but if it ended up being awkward, he'd have made my job really uncomfortable."

I had an ex girlfriend who would often say: "This doesn't bother ME. But if I were another girl, it WOULD HAVE bothered me. So you're a jerk and need to apologize."

I once told her they were starting renovations on her apartment complex. "Imagine if I WASN'T home at the time. I would have panicked! What kind of jerk wants his girlfriend to panic?!" And she promptly broke up with me.

But yeah, if something doesn't bother you personally, and you can handle it just fine, don't start looking for ways to be offended by it because "it would have bothered Emily". Trust me, you'll quickly turn into the "psycho ex girlfriend".

nah not at all, it was probably doing more damage to him keeping it inside. sometimes you gotta let that stuff out regardless of whether the other person feels the same way. since you already had a clue that he was interested it can't possibly have done that much harm

On the one hand, yes, he should have taken the hint. He should have thought about how his saying anything to you might make both of your jobs difficult. There's also the issue of gossip since inevitably, people at work will likely find out this happened. Honesty isn't an excuse for making moves on people in a work environment where the grapevine is always operating.

On the other hand, a verbal hint won't stand up if you are otherwise giving him 'yes' vibes, by flirting, by the way you smile at him, and so on. I can't know if you were doing that, and you yourself might not have been aware you were giving him that vibe, either.

So I can't agree with you about his being inconsiderate without knowing how you were behaving around him; how you were dressing at work; and how your conversations were going. Since you got long well at work, I tend to think you were doing at least a little flirting, even if you weren't meaning to!

I hope he takes this rejection in stride, as you seem to be able to do.

What he did was fine.

What you did was fine.

He probably felt he had to take a shot. As long as it was how you make it sound, in a manner that wasn't scary or awkward, you should be able to continue as work buds as long as he is able to let go of the idea of it being something more.

Now if he had cornered you in the office and stuck his tongue down your throat, that might cause some awkwardness.

Inconsiderate? The last thing it would be is inconsiderate.

He had feelings, and he let you know. It's only awkward if you make it.

Yea I read some one the answers from girls down there, what is up their asses -.-

Anyways, I think it's perfectly fine, though you just might be over thinking slightly, and that's perfectly normal. It's very flattering when you find out that someone likes you, but when you don't return those feelings, it can get very awkward. You've handled this perfectly, but your own thoughts might still be bothering you. So just have some quiet 'you' time, and just let this slide so it doesn't stay on your mind for too long :)

Hey, I would be totally ticked if I were you. Some guys just can't take a hint, and then it gets awkward when they go balls to the wall.

It's important to consider that the guy has feelings, but one should also consider YOUR feelings. It is not your job to take care of someone else; you have yourself to worry about, after all. The guy made the decision to put his heart on the line, and you can recognize that as an adult decision and handle it accordingly. Maybe he just felt so strongly that he had to take the shot; at the same time, it was a little inconsiderate since you were making it clear you weren't interested and he went ahead anyway...that was something he did for himself, and not for you at all.

Team You.

Its also funny how your ready to cry sexual harassment on a young man who made a simple observation, with the hope of making your day... If your not at all in the least intrested you would of never blog about it., And the reasons why the "females" are making these observations is because we are "females" and we are very VERY AWARE,of the games WE PLAY...SO your story is not unique stop playing with this guys feelings period, UR PULLING A STUNT, TO LOOK LIKE THE VICTIM..leave that man alone you don't want him that's it...do go jeopardizing his job either with your cry baby bullsh*t, about how he was wrong to put you in that position. If he's not making it awkward just move on do him a favor PLEASE!.

I think you are exaggerating and yes, you are probably being insensitive... more than insensitive, maybe even selfish.

So you told him you weren't interested in a relationship... he probably didn't want a relationship anyway. He should have read the hint, but he anyway took the shot. if you ask me, he had more to lose than you. He's the one who got rejected and you are the one thinking that he's inconsiderate about making you feel awkward in your job. He might even feel he not only lost a potential date, but also a friend... and you are here thinking he's very inconsiderate. I think you're exaggerating this. I'm sure he also values his job and your job. He was just expressing his feelings. Now that knows you're a waste of time, he'll accept it, move on and forget about you. he will pull away in trying not to make you feel like he's insisting. Get over yourself. These things happen all the time. he'll be back to normal in no time.

Yea your being a jerk, its very possible UR making more of this than it really is. Truth be told he probably just wanted to f*** u. Not marry you anyways. You probably look like a good f***...now what you turned him down and he doesn't pay any attention to your ass anymore, so your sitting around thinking how you can get his attention, by saying this sh*t. With the hope some body agree with your crybaby ass so you can have a fake attitude with him with the hopes he .notice it... Cause your craving his attention now,... Pathetic