One of my really good friend's and I recently decided that we want to fool around. No sex, but. Close enough! We haven't actually done anything yet, but I'm going to his house on Friday, and I'm kinda nervous. I think I may have feeling for him, but we told each other that we wouldn't get feeling involved. But recently he's been telling me that he loves me (but always includes 'as a friend' at the end of the sentence), and being extremely cute (personality wise). I'm really not sure what to do!
As mentioned before, Friends with benefits are very hard because somebody gets attached, and then they get hurt; Friends with benefits only work best when the two people have been thru relationships, and they clearly know they don't want to get involved, but they just want to have physical fun. Even then, somebody could get attached. Since you already mentioned you like him, might as well tell him that you would love to fool around, but you like him, and you don't want to get hurt, and that's why maybe it would be best not to fool around. Kind of hard, but if things go wrong with the fooling around, you could lose a good friend. Guys in this type of situation will tell you that is no big deal, that you could try it the first time to see how it goes, etc; if he really thought of you as a friend, then he will agree with you. However, if he just wants to get down, he will try to convince you to fool around. Tough call, but just know that if you do fool around, it will complicate your emotional life a bit more! :)
Hi! I think you need to make a decision with this guy - do you want to be friends or do you want to have a relationship? As everyone else said, if you have feelings for this guy and you sleep with him, you will probably get hurt because you want more than that. Personally, I would not compromise with what you want. If you want a committed relationship, is this the guy for you? - 3 months ago
From my experience "friends with benefits" never really works because one person always ends up wanting more. You need to decide whether or not this person is worth risking your friendship to find out what might happen if you were more, but without the title. Guys that say they want a "friend with benefits" usually just want sex with someone they feel comfortable around without all the stuff that comes with a relationship and being "tied down. " so be careful, and make sure you think about it before you decide what you want to do because once you go make the decision there is no turning back. Good luck!
This is hard lol. First of all, think with your head! You "think" you have feelings for him but are you thinking that because you really do...... or because you know that you are about to get down and dirty with this guy lol. Did you feel these feelings before the benefits part was even brought up? You really need to think about it. Second... my best friend tells me he loves me all the time but he's gay so... I'm just as confused as you are on that! Just be careful. Make sure he's a real friend before you even kiss him. If you don't and he turns away to get a girlfriend it will crush you and hurt you a lot. So... think it through and if you trust him there's nothing to be nervous about. If you don't then it may be something you have to re-consider.
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