This girl I like is definitely showing some sort of interest in me. She starts conversations with me, not to mention she flirts a lot. However, there's this other guy that she seems to be into as well. I'm just wondering what it means if a girl is showing all signs of interest toward you, but at the same time seems like she has a thing with another guy. Ask for more details if needed.
She is doing the same thing all other guys and gals do when they are seeking out a mate. The play the field (as in flirting with the persons they like and seeing which one actually bites the bait).
We guys do it all the time, we talk to a million girls, like half of them and pick the one we consider the best for us. its that simple.
She is doing the same thing, she may very well be into you AND that guy ...and that guy ...and that guy, lol.
What are you planning to do to stand out amongst the masses? Do you really want her that bad? Yes? well then do whatever it takes but be real in the proccess and don't get bummed out if she picks another guy.
It is pretty much a game of numbers, the more you put yourself out there the bigger the chance of finding a mate. That is exatcly what she is doing and ther is nothing wrong with it.
Once you understand the game and understand what is going on, you'll find a way to get her. Nothing good comes for free, you got to work on yourself and her. now start working on happiness. :-)
Pretty much what he said. She wants to have her options open so if one of the guys she's into doesn't reciprocate her interest, she has other possible guys to fall back on. She probably likes one of you guys more than the other and will go after him first. - 10 months ago
I agree with him. I'm single, and I'm not talking to any guys right now but let's say I was and there was more than one...wouldn't mean I was a tease or anything. some might be just friends, some might blossom into more... don't worry too much about her liking someone else too. she might end up choosing you :) - 7 months ago
it means she's a flirt and loves attention. if she's making enuendos to you similar to the passes she makes with others she's a flirt, and she's trouble. Find yourself a lady that only has eyes for you.
im tellin ya, if you find yourself in a relationship with a girl that can't behave you're in for heartache and a world of hurt. she just isn't worth that time. trust me. I use to be the girl that couldn't make up her mind, I hurt a few along the way and I don't ever see myself there again.
First of all, this girl sounds exactly like me and what I've been doing for the past several months. lol If she is starting conversations with you then she is definitley interested in you... the other guy she is talking to could just be a friend and she might flirt with him but probably doesn't like him if he seems interested and she's not dating him. I think she is waiting for you to ask her out. I even liked this one guy once and I thought he was never going to ask me out because he showed very little interest and there was another guy that persued me and I ended up dating the guy that persued me even though I liked the other guy so much more and really wanted to date him but he just didn't show that much interest. I think if you like her, forget about the other guy, (they are probably just friends) and just ask her out and show her that you're interested in her. She's probably waiting for you to! :)
I agree we are not interested in all men we talk to or even prat around and joke with, we treat them as we would another girl friend it's the guy we don't treat the same witch is the one we like. - 6 months ago
She could be pursuing both...most girls don't see a problem talking or being interested in two guys until one of the relationships is for real. Or she could just be a big flirt.
Yeah she's not really a big flirt. I know that most girls don't start conversations with guys and she is one of those girls, but she starts them with me and this other guy. It almost seems like she's trying to compare us or something lol. - 10 months ago
It is possible to she is in to both of you. Back in my young single days I used to keep a list of guys I was interested in and was "working". Maybe one of them was going to work out, maybe one wasn't. Lots of times girls like to keep their options open because they don't know exactly who is in to them as well. Why don't you ask her out.
Why would you think it is early to ask her out ? - 10 months ago
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I just need to start hanging out with her more and talk to her more in person. Most of our talking lately has been through text messaging/facebook. It's vacation for school so I haven't been able to talk to her in person too much. - 10 months ago
It's possible, but I don't think she's that type of girl. I guess you never know though. - 10 months ago
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It depends how into him is she? If she really likes that guy, then she could do almost anything to get his attention. And if she shy, I assume this could be the way of making other guy jealous, to show that she likes him, cause she is too shy to speak to him. But she is playing mean then. Maybe you could ask her straight - What's up, or maybe ask her out if you like her. See how she reacts. - 10 months ago
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It seems like she was interested in this guy before she started talking to me a lot. She talks this other guy a lot too and she's definitely not too shy to speak to him, in fact she's not shy at all. I'd ask her what's up but I think it's too early, I'll have to wait a little longer to see if it keeps up. - 10 months ago
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If you are OK with that then it can wait of course. How do you know for sure, she likes that other guy? Maybe she has left him so many signs that she is interested in him and he didn't respond the way she hoped, so she moved on, but still acts casual around him. As a girl I could say that if I liked two guys, but I kinda now one of them is not so interested in me, but I now the other one is, I just hang around a lot with the guy who is interested. - 10 months ago
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The thing is, I think this guy has some feelings for her too, and for some reason they aren't going out yet. It's kind of a complicated situation. - 10 months ago
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Well, maybe that's the thing I mentioned, he doesn't respond to her the way she wants, so she has doubts if he is into her. From what you described it looks like girl is not the one who will make move first. She could let him know she likes him, but if for some reasons he is not asking her out, she assumes he is not interested and she found you maybe more interesting. But the question is, if he someday says yes to her, do you really want to go through the drama of who will she pick then? - 10 months ago
It's just a flirt, I wouldn't feel to special if I was you, Id guess she's just doing it to every guy to see what responses she gets and to have some fun.
remember that she's "intrested". Do not put all your time and effort into her hoping she notices that you care more, that does not matter. The best thing you can do is hang out with her but don't put her on a pedestal because it may curve her interest.
You seem to be doing well if she's approaching you and I don't believe she is an attention whore or anything at all. If you do not have her number try getting it and go on from there.
If I avoid her, that makes me think she would automatically choose the other guy over me because it would seem like I'm not interested, when I definitely am. - 10 months ago
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You're young, so perhaps you don't understand that these mindgames are not worth the effort. They're nothing but headache, heartache and frustration.
Girls your age often *enjoy* these games. They're sick, and they're trying to control you. The sooner you can learn to have some dignity, the happier you'll be. No girl's worth it.
So what if she chooses another guy? That means she doesn't have you. Her loss. Find a girl who respects you and doesn't mess with people's heads. - 10 months ago
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Yeah I completely agree on the heartache and frustration part. I'll see how things go for a little longer but if this keeps up then you're advice sounds like a good idea. I can't put up with thinking "Alright so does this girl like me or not?" 24/7, you know? - 10 months ago
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Trust me, I know.
My advice is to be straight with her: "Listen. I like you. But I'm really confused and can't deal with all this. So if you want to spend some time with me, I'd be happy. But until then, I've got to move on with my life."
This keeps some dignity for you, but doesn't burn your bridges. - 10 months ago
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I guess I'll just give it some time until I can't take it any longer. Right now it's just a concern, but if it turns into something I can't deal with then I'm gonna have to do something along those lines. - 10 months ago
If he avoids her, he is basically putting himself OUT of the game. I am sure the other guys would be happy about that...less competition and a greater chance they will be picked. That is awesome advise if you are really trying to help the other guys out and not the question asker... - 10 months ago
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I am trying to help the question asker, Gorce. You and I simply disagree about what is the best help.
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