From opener to clincher

Singer,. You need to get out of your head so much and stop worrying about how you are going to sound, or how they are going to respond. That said,. This is a very common, and fairly easy problem to overcome.

This is the same problem that a lot of sales people have. "I can talk to the customer about the product, but then I don't know how to transition to the sale. " -- Easy, you just ask for it. You don't worry about what they are going to say,. You don't worry about sounding too direct, you just ask for the sale, and then whatever they say after that, you deal with it then.

Take your coffee situation. You talking to a girl in line at the grocery store:

You/Her: "Blah, blah, blah, small talk stuff, blah, blah, blah, oh I love puppies, blah, blah, blah,. "

You: "I would love to give you a call sometime and meet up for a cup of coffee. "

--- This is where most people mess themselves up. Not because they asked the question, but because they start thinking about all the things that she could say.

- What if she says no.
- What if I sound like I am coming on too strong.
- What if she has a boyfriend, and we go through that awkward "I have a boyfriend" thing.

There are a million what if's. What most people do is that they come up with so many reasons why they might get rejected, or offend the other person that they almost feel like they should apologize for asking.

"I'm sorry,. But I would love to take you out,. "
"I hate to ask, but can I give you a call sometime,. "
"If it's ok,. "

This is all very common. Just get out of your head and stop worrying about what she will say, or how you sound, or what will happen. Whatever she says, you can answer. Chances are, you will ask her out, and she will say yes.

Is there a way to ask a girl out without being nervous or risking rejection,. No. But you can set yourself apart from all the other guys that keep hitting on her. Simply be confident, and respectful.

You: "I would to take you out sometime. "

Her: "Aggghhhhh! I have a boyfriend. How could you possibly ask me that, don't you know how many times I get hit on a day? If you ever change your mind and feel like giving me a call, feel free. "

It really doesn't matter what she says,. If you stay confident and respectful, you will be fine. So get out there, just ask, and remember to get out of your own head so much.

Best regards.

You have to just throw it out there, just ask, your afraid of rejection basically, we all are, but I would be more afraid of the opportunities you could be passing up because you don't want to hear No, or I have a boyfriend, throw caution to the wind, get out of your comfort zone and just ask, you'll never know otherwise. Hoped I helped!

P. S. Say something like "wanna get a coffee sometime" lol, or wait for her to mention something she likes, like an Art Museum, or a new movie she wants to see, and ask her to go. Say I want to see that movie to, we should go together, etc etc.

Don't be afraid to ask! Sometimes we are waiting and then guys never ask its. Frustrating! Usually if she isn't interested then she will still be nice in her refusal but don't be afraid to just put it on the table!