If you are in a relationship with a girl and she's flirting with other people (the other guys are initiating it though) right in front of your face. How do you respond.
I'm weird I guess, but it would totally turn me on. I think it depends on quite a few things:
First, if you're really in love with her (REALLY), then it would probably break your heart and make you jealous.
Second: if you've already been divorced and this girl you're dating probably isn't the "right one," or you (like me) don't feel like you can ever have the same 'love' for a subsequent girl as you did for the first one, then (like me), it's probably just about the sex and companionship and to see anything (like live porn almost) like this would probably turn you on.
Finally, the more love grows between you and your gal, the more this kind of flirtation will probably bother you. Even though other men are initiating it, you will probably resent her for not doing more to put up walls that will send the "I'm not available," signal.
Why put all the pressure on her? If you don't like it, jokingly tell the the other guys that they are moving on your girl.
You said yourself that the other guys initiate it so don't blend into the wall decor, sour up and blame your girlfriend for it... do something about it.
I think most guys will get the hint but if they don't at first be a bit more assertive on the 2nd try.
What kind of flirting you mean? Some friendly stuff is okay if it don't go too long. My Callie don't mistreat me that way. Did have a girl like that a few years back, she got talking too sexy to some random guy. He thought it was alright to make a comment about her chest. Fortunate he didn't lose any teeth, but there's a lot of blood in payment for that rudeness. It was dumb though, seeing as how Kelly always did that type of thing. Letting you know how I thought - I dumped her long ago.
Although other people are initiating the flirting, I would not be to happy to see that my love is flirting back. I would pretend to not care about what's going on at the moment, ignore it and put on a smile. Once my girl and I have privacy, I WILL confront her about her behavior and see how she respond from there. If she apologize and stop her flirting, I'll forgive and everything's fine. If she continues and does not change, it's time for me to pack up and leave. To me, when a girl flirts back like that, it means that she does not have self control nor any consideration for her partner. She should be wise enough to understand that no man wants his partner to be flirting and roaming around in public like that. This will make the the girl look and and also the man. Remember gals, self control and especially consideration are traits in a woman that men with at least average intelligence want.
I would simply walk away. I wouldn't want to stand there and embarrass myself. Then I would talk to her about it later and find out what it all really meant ( whether it was a friendly thing or trying to make me jealous, or what). I'd ask her not to "flirt" in front of me cause I'm wanting to be her one and only.
I would be pissed that she didn't care enough about me to tell the other guys she's with someone, and to ask them to stop. Or if not that, just thank them for any compliments and let them know with visual clues that they are making her uncomfortable.
I would be upset with the guys too and get in their face about it, yet it would still probably be a relationship-breaker if she went along with the flirting anyways.
I totally agree with you I've watched my friend do this to EVERY guys she's been with and I wonder how she stays in relationships that long. - 6 months ago
"And what are you doing? " I'd seen that happen before with my sister and her boyfriend. He doesn't say anything but I can tell his pissed off because he won't say anything more than a yes or no the rest of the night. She acts like its harmless cause the guys initiate it and sometimes they get privileges, but I can tell she's gonna drive him away!
So this leads to my next question. Do I mention her behavior to her or will she just see me as the jealous friend who isn't getting as much attention as her. (although I am not the least bit jealous of her negative attention. ) - 6 months ago
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Definitely mention it, if you can suggest it playfully after a moment has happen so she won't be as offensive or think your jealous. But try not to mention it in front of her boyfriend because she might see that as you busting her out. - 6 months ago
If you are in a relationship and your girlfriend is flirting with other guys right in front of your face then maybe the two of you shouldn't be together. That is not respectful at all and nobody should have to deal with that. Let her know how you feel and if she doesn't understand then then the two of you weren't mean to be together.
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