I got to ask this. If a girl is being genuinely nice to a guy, do all guys take that as flirting? I've been told I'm a pretty friendly girl (and even naive at times). I like to help people and just be all around nice. It happens quite often that I'll be polite with a guy and then next thing I know I'm getting hit on hardcore. Is there any way for me to be nice and not send out that signal? Or do I just have to get used it?
I run into a similar problem all of the time. I'm nice to people, and women I wouldn't really want to date think I'm being nice to try and meet them.
Do you carry out conversations with the people while you are helping them (for directions I can understand if you do. But for other occasions)? Maybe simply helping out then, "Have a good day. " Something to hint that the meeting of worlds is now over, carry on please. I usually end up just smiling, but then going back to whatever I was doing, and not looking in their direction again.
I don't do that just for women either. I employ the tactic for any clingy person that wants to suck the nice out of me like a vampire.
I don't usually carry on conversations, but if they talk to me I do answer back. Haha I sound like I don't know how to tell people to back off. I do, but I'd rather not if they're not being a big bother. I have a ton of patience. - 10 months ago
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You probably won't feel comfortable doing it (I should know being a nice person too lol), but you may have to be a little mean the next time it happens "Sorry, but I'm not interested. " It might make you feel bad, but will save you a headache. :) - 10 months ago
Smile less. Help out, but do it so that it seems like they are taking up valuable time, or really inconveniencing you. Its sometimes necessary to humble someone who needs help with a little guilt. Nothing like a little guilt to quell those male urges. It also helps to push them into doing things for themselves. Most everyone has a Mommy already - they don't need two. Those that need more help all the time begin to depend on it - and I don't want to have to help a needy person at every step of my day. It is time for some independence! Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country!
I have tried to be more off putting, but I end up feeling kinda bad. Don't get me wrong, I don't help every person I see. Really it's just little things like helping someone pick up things they've dropped, holding a door open, or giving someone directions - 10 months ago
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