Anyone else have this problem? When I think of a guy in friend terms I can be more open about myself, more witty, and just more fun and outgoing. But as soon as we start dating I start to clam up. I become more self conscious about how I act and look, I don't always say what's on my mind for fear of saying something stupid, and my overall thought process goes down the tubes. I don't know why it happens or how to fix it.
Update: I've tried to keep all of what you guys said in mind, but I failed again. I forgot to mention I say really stupid things. Not like random ditzy stupid things, but my logic is turned around. And my memory recall is terrible. I fear I come off as being dumb
10 months ago
I have kind of the same problem. When I first meet a girl I'm pretty smooth and have no problem talking to her even though I'm nervous. Soon as I find out she likes me though? I talk too much and end up saying dumb shit and coming on too strong and I blow it haha. I think the best bet it
Difference being you clam up instead, just try and be confident, he's dating you for a reason. He wouldn't of decided to date you if he didn't like the way you talk or the things you say, so just be yourself, that's all he wants. :)
See the post from me - Bigguns in Dating to Anonymous regarding: "Communicate with Guys" about an hour ago. Pay attention to the part about the communication process.
I don't think my problem is with communication per say, but rather I'm over analyzing and not getting out what I want to say. But thank you, your post was interesting to read. - 10 months ago
I have had this same problem, of course me and my ex decided to be friends again.
I was always this way because I thought if I told him everything it would break the friendship we once had or even worst (hurt him). I broke up with him and told him we were better off as friends. Maybe y'all should continue to be friends before somethings happens and he neither wants to be in a relationship or friendship
I think everyone to an extent has this problem when you're just friends with someone that feeling of possible rejection doesn't really enter the picture. My advice to you is if you started out with these guys as friends then that's who they like just be yourself. In my own experience that's what men find most attractive anyway, a woman who is herself, if you're noticing a difference in your attitude then so is he! Don't forget he's dating the you he got to know in the first place whether you said stupid things, wore unattractive clothing(not to say you do) it doesn't matter because if it did you probably wouldn't have hooked up in the first place!
Thanks. It probably is because I'm secretly scared of feeling rejected. It's just sometimes I have such a hard time relaxing back into my attitude before. - 10 months ago
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