Why do I pretend to be someone I'm not?

People want to be liked, its natural to do that kind of stuff to be liked, but the truth be told, if you are found out being "fake" then that will just make you be looked down upon, for now just be yourself, act how you normally would, without you struggling to be happy so much, people will grow to you faster, being confident in who you are will make you liked by more, don't stress over it and you will find yourself happier

I feel the main reason you do this is you are not happy. You are not happy with what is going on in your life and that is why you are living these 'fantasies' and pretending they are reality. You need to stop and think of what it is you are missing, and the answer is probably an intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or a romantic relationship. What your fantasies have in common are a feeling of belonging, or feeling needed. You just feel that you don't fit and therefore are searching for something that will make you feel like you belong. You do belong though, you are here, and you will find that connection that you crave. Then over time some of these fantasies will become realities. I know it.

First off, telling people your in the You. S. Military and not being is a Felony. Stop lying about yourself. Telling people you have a baby is just making them think your a whore. Chances are people's lives aren't that great around you either. Be yourself. Why would you want to pretend to be someone else? Also, why did the Army Disqualify you? Just wondering, Former Army Sgt here.

You need to stop lying to people about your life. The more lies you tell, the harder it is to carry on the charade. Sooner or later, everyone who lies gets caught sooner or later. It sounds like you may need some counseling for this problem. Get some professional help, and you will be much happier with your life, and won't feel the need to lie about it.

You have self esteem problems. You want to feel like you fit in and feel like something. Like you are a better person because they will not accept you for the real you. Its psychological and you need to get some counseling. It really starts from childhood. Its actually very common. You can get books on this and there are groups you can join. Go on the internet and look it up. You can change it if you don't like it. Its hard. But, you can.

Lynne!? Lawl! Is that you!?

You sound so much like my friend Lynne.

Oh well - I guess I kind of understand her more now - she lies about EVERYTHING!

Omg this is slightly scary.

Ok well basically, you have two choices The hard way or the harder way.

The Hard Way - Tell everyone you know you lied

The Harder Way - Keep on going with the lies

Because you've said you've got a baby it's way too far to just let people forget with time - you've crossed the line, sweetie, those are your only options!

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Well. We do things because we want to feel that nothing is missing in our lives - the best advice is to be yourself - I mean I used to look at people when they had things I wanted - I did the same thing as you did except maybe not buy a ring but I used to lie but that is only because something really was missing in my life! Try to look at positive things and see what makes you happy in this life actually that this life has to offer!