Okay, so me and my boyfriend went on a break because we were fighting soo much. I found out on our break that he was talking to another girl and saying things like "i wanna **** you". We almost split up over it but we got back together and he told me I'm the only one he wants and told me things like I really am the girl of his dreams and that he loves me.
Well a couple of weeks before the break, we had been talking bout having sex. We really were going to go through with it until the break.
Now he keeps bringing it up saying things like we have unfinished business to do like its a funny thing. I told him how I'm not ready now specially since everything that has happened. But he still brings it up and keeps blaming himself and saying how stupid he is because now were not going to have sex for awhile.
Does he just want sex? Do you think he is in the relationship just to get sex. Were both still virgins. Please help
Update: He tells me all the time he loves me so much and I make him soo happy . He tells me I mean everything to him . He's very sweet and seems to really care but sometimes I'm unsure, I don't know whether to go through with having sex or not
9 months ago
Update: He always has told me to never leave him because he sure in hell isn't going anywhere .
9 months ago
To me, it seems as though he just wants you for sex . He almost had the chance of having sex with you, and it slipped away from him and now he feels humiliated and burned that he never got to have sex with you . The fact that he's referring to it as "unfinished business" shows how he sees you . You can do better, move on from him and let him know that there will be no conjugal relations between you .
That "unfinished business" comment sounds bad to me. So does saying how stupid he is because now you're not going to have sex for awhile. It's hard to imagine innocent explanations for comments like these -- they are most likely tip offs that this guy just wants to get you in bed asap. Is this really the guy you want for your first lover? The guy to whom you want to give your virginity? Probably not. Here's a simple test -- tell him you have decided to put off sex for at least a few months, so you two can get to know each other better. If he reacts negatively, well, I think you can assume you don't really mean "everything" to him, right?
Thank you. And I do want him as my first he's a very sweet loving guy, I love him. I told him that we were going to put it off for awhile and he seemed fine without, but he brings it up from time to time. He said he would wait for me. - 9 months ago
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Okay, so far so good. Pleased to hear that he seems willing to wait for you, and hope that continues. Best of luck! - 9 months ago
Maybe he really wants sex and doesn't want you to get hurt/ lose your virginity so he tried to deal with it. Then he decided that he really wants to be with you - it's really hard for me to decide but it could be that he really does care and is willing to wait for you.
Just because he *tells* you all the nice things in the world, doesn't mean he's for real. Some guys will tell a girl everything to get in her panties. I've had marriage proposals, guys buy me pets, guys even asking me to have their baby, etc. all in hopes that I would fall for it and give them what they wanted. If he's still saying those things after you sleep with him, then he's probably for real...but you won't know unless you do it. Not that you should..all the bad signs are already there - 9 months ago
It's hard for me to answer this without knowing him, but it does sound an awful lot like he's just in it for the sex, try to figure out what he's thinking, get inside his head, ask him questions and hopefully you can find out if he thinks of you as more than just sex. Good luck
Do you have any ideas on how to test him ? Thank you - 9 months ago
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Well I'm sure you've told him about the things that you do and don't like. So you could give him a list of things that you don't like and ask him which one he thinks he'd buy you and why. Sorry that's a lame idea. I'll get back to you about that - 9 months ago
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