How many out there are willing to get to know someone new or more afraid of them hurting you so you are out to hurt them first?

There needs to be an initial attraction, and since vision is usually the first sense we use when meeting someone, the impression tends to be based on looks . It pays to take care of your appearance, at least somewhat . It will prove that you're hygienic and at least a little current .

Reading between the lines, it sounds like you may have a low opinion of yourself . Be careful that you don't become self-defeating, and that you don't automatically assume that the other person is going to be a certain way, or only care about certain things . No one likes to be stereotyped .

Most importantly, you have to feel good about yourself--make yourself into someone worth knowing . Develop new interests and hobbies; they'll help you to improve yourself and your worth to other people .

But to directly answer your question, yes, it would certainly be nice if people gave each other more leeway . There are so many people in this world that there is a tendency to move on after only a brief meeting, because the "grass is always greener" when you're eternally meeting new people .