Am I a loser?

to be honest, there are a lot of people in the same position as you. I, myself, am 21, I doo have a boyfriend but I still live at home, have had the same job since I was 17, in college and have lost a lot of my friends. And well.. the friends thing.. that's just a part of life. you grow up and lose friends, but you gain friends as well as life goes on. you'll get a job someday and meet new people. And abouut the job thing, its pretty tough to get a job right now in this economy so id say the best thing to do is get your college stuff done then start looking for a job. then you'll be able to save up money and move out. no need to think your a loser. you can't label yourself as that when you can't really change the current situation too quickly. Just hang in there, things will work out in time, your still young and you have your whole life ahead of you :)

Lots of people have been sick a lot when they where younger, you can't use that as an excuse. Why don't you have a job? If you're in your mid twenties you should defo have a job and there are lots of jobs out there, it might not be the job you always wanted but in your position you need to take what you can get. You will meet new people who can turn into friends and loads of people meet their boyfriend/girlfriend at work. Living at home isn't a problem, it's better than throwing your money away renting and not many people can afford to buy a house. If you are in college aren't their any nice girls there? And at least you're working towards a good job.

only you can think your a loser and that will radiate to others. find somethign you're amazing at, and feel great abotu yourself. others will see that

dont think of yourself as a loser, think of yourself as a work in progress. now work to progress!

Personally, for me, the fact that you've never had a job and you're in your mid-twenties would raise a serious red flag for me. Whether you're in college or not.

TexGal and Kevlar are right. You're not a loser. That's the furthest thing from a loser. The only reason I'm not in your place is because I'm scared to death of being conquered by life. I was sick a lot when I was younger, as well. I wasn't supposed to live to be one, then I lived. I wasn't supposed to live to be twelve, but I did. I'm almost twenty now, and things are really rough, but I don't want to be unhappy when I get older. I've also suffered from severe anxiety, and one of the things that has helped me with that is staying busy. I'm surrounded by people who are clinically depressed, and it's hard to see them hurt, but I can not allow myself to be like that. It's not your fault you've had anxiety or depression. Those things happen because as we grow, we must get stronger, and we must learn. We have to conquer evil. We are all soldiers fighting our own battles. You just have to stay strong even when it feels impossible to do so.

And hey, at least you're in school. You have that going for you. Even though the economy is rough right now, there are some people out there hiring. If it's the anxiety keeping you from getting a job, what about working scares you? You can message me any time. I've been there, and I've seen a lot of people go through the same thing. I know I'm young, but I know what I'm talking about. Talk to me any time.

As long as you are trying to make progress and trying to move forward you are not a looser! Your illness was a real thing that was obviously very challenging. So long as you accept it as a challenge that delayed some things in your life and you are still working to overcome it, you are doing great! If you use your illness and misfortune as an excuse you're going to feel bad about yourself. In fact, that's probably why you feel bad now: You know you are capable of more.

I would suggest you find a job that pays well enough to allow you to get an apartment with rommates. From there, work on being responsible with your job duties and your classes. Girls are drawn to guys who take care of their responsibilities and take care of themselves. Girls will come once you've done these things. Don't expect them to come knocking on your mom's door.

The crawl out of this type of hole can be difficult but start by doing something small and progressive each day. See about updatig your resumé or googling a local employment group as the first poster suggested. Each day encourage yourself to do one positive thing that moves your life forward and be very proud of yourself for doing it! You have come through some serious life challenges with desires to still do good things! That is awesome!

If your still in college, that's alright. Stay on course, even if others have passed you. As long as your committed to graduating and having a plan, then no, you are not a loser.

To be a "loser" means you are not the winner.

Now, compared to the CEO of Intel, you are a loser.

Compared to a drunk bum on the streets, you are a winner.

It all comes down to your competition. because if you are not competing against anyone, then you'll always be the winner.

I'll always remember a quote from my CEO from my first engineering job:

"john, without idiots and losers, you'd never know who the winners are. You'll always come out as a loser from time to time, the secret is accepting that, and using those instances as a break point to obtain greater success."

I feel exactly the same... I'm 19y guy, who still lives at home, I am a very lonely person except for having my family. There's so much I want to change in my life and it feels like nothing is happen, I am totally stuck.
Still working on my driving license, having no job or girlfriend, if I even got any friends at all... : (
I just hate people who feel poor about them selves, and I don't wanna be such kind of person and to be honest I am not that kind of person.

I want a job, driving licens, somewhere else to live, find a girlfriend that I love, get back my friends again, and maybe do more things that I like.

Maybe I am on the track now since I'm still working on to get a job and a driving licens.

If you know what you want to do with your life, you just have to try to make them real. Push yourself to make changes.

Dude that sounds like me, yesterday. Yesterday has come and gone. You know you have a past, I know I had a past, but people don't care. They have their own troubles to worry about to worry about yours. What you need to do is start working on all the areas you want to improve on.

Job. You need to get in touch with an employment group. As cliche as it sounds they do work, they know how tough it is for people from all walks of life. Girlfriend, well I don't think you should worry about this at this stage. There are far more priorities you need to attend to. Girls like a man you has a job, money, personality. If you happen to find a keeper that's willing to stick with you through your transition then you better by god marry her. But if not, it's no biggie, girls will come, just be patient but not fence sitting. Friends, well join a club where people share the same interests as you. Start remembering people's names, repeat them and this forms the basis of friendships, work hard at it, and you will be a valuable friend to many people. And college, well I'm still in at university too. I started in 2003 doing Graphic Design, it's now 2009 and I am a first year Commerce student now!

The first step is to eliminate the thought of you being a loser. Nobody is a loser. Everybody makes decisions, everybody goes through sh*t, some go through worse situations than others. But at the end of the day it all comes down to you. We make life what we make it.

Keep me posted dude, I know how hard it is to be in your position. I was there.