Ok tell me if I am wrong. I am a 17 year old in high school I play softball and volleyball and I am the ROTC drill team, well my father promised me a car but his word don't mean shit anymore, so my MOTHER promised me a car in july.
I do a lot for my age witha ll the sports I have A &'S B's and I even have a part time job I think a car is well deserved, I don't want to put up with my 6 and 3 year old nieces with my MONEY HUNGRY FEEN SISTER, the house is driving me nuts and I have been waiting on a car for soo long.
i have 2,000 to put on a car but my mama said I have to wait for graduation to get one or quit my sports to work more! I feel that is not fair since I said I would help out I can only do so much and to give up something I enjoy when I DESERVE IT!
It is like everything I do is completely wrong and no matter what at the end of the day my happiness is at stake. am I being wrong for being mad at my mom for telling me I can get something then shooting me down.
Well no you're right, but there is better ways to go at it. Have you ever heard that saying ull catch more bees with honey than vinegar? It looks to me your parents are only protecting you till you turn 18, anything you do till then is their fault and that might be hard for them to live with. That and they know if you have a car you are gonna go out with boys more and they are gonna loose their little daughter. , so I would keep you patients and not walk away when your talking to them about this situation.
Because when you walk away, all thy think is she is not ready. So you gotta sell them on the idea that you are ready. How do you do that. Well it takes time and a lot of patients and persistence. If you have patients and persistence you will always get what you want in life. But you can't get up. Selling is a transfer off feeling, like when you excited about something so much the otherr person gets excited, you get it. If you really feel you are ready and are patient in communicating this with your parents enough times, they will feel that and change their mind.
But you can't be the one that gets mad and walks away, you loose the upperhand that way. You have to be so persistent and patient that they are the one who walks away. Then you know you are getting to them. You do that enough times bam you got them they will break. But you gotta be sincere when doing this. Tight now they are looking for any reason for you not to have it. So ask them what's the only thing stopping you. They will tell you exactly how to get the car. Now once they tell you that, then the negotiating process comes in. He if I get my grades better how about I work less, or anything you can negotiating that they will like besides you working more. Remember, persistence, patients, sincere, and communication. Good?
Honestly it sounds to me that you're being selfish and childish. Is you having a car more important than your nieces and the rest of your family? I'm 21 now and guess how I got my car? I started working when I was 16 after school and eventually managed to pay for it all by myself. Took awhile, and yeah it gave me less time for friends, dance and everything else that I love, but if you want something you have to work for it!
It is easy to say I am being selfish one your looking at it from a one sided story. When your sister is 26 years old and works at mcdonalds it is no longer YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to take care of kids that are not yours. I love my nieces but why would I strain myself to take care of them? Maybe if I didn't have no friends like you were stating then I could turn to them!
- 8 months ago
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I could fit the rest in there. i been working 2 weeks after my 16 birthday, I been putting 90 dollars into my account for college for 2 years now. now if I am being selfish and childish for being promised something twice and not getting it. And "supposedly" putting a car over my family which I don't know where the heck that came from in the 4 paragraphs you read then so be it. I work my ass off regardless of a car I work my ass off my scholarships in sports in academics. So thanks! - 8 months ago
All I'm saying is you're lucky to be getting one. So what if you have to wait until graduation? Most kids don't have their parents buy them cars. At least not around here. And for the record, I have two neices as well, a 1 year old and a 4 year old. The 4 year old I practically raised until she was 3, as well as her older half sister that I started taking care of when I was 16. Yeah, it sucks that you gotta take care of someone else's kids, trust me, I know it sucks when the girls parents - 8 months ago
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Aren't doing what they should be doing (like raising their kids) but one thing you have to consider is it's not all that easy to find a good job, at least your sister is working somewhere. Better then her being a bum. And it's not your nieces fault that things are the way they are. I don't blame your parents also for wanting to take care of the girls - they are after all their granddaughters. I know even now if my brother needed someone to take his kids, I'd do it in a heartbeat. - 8 months ago
Question Asker
Well understood, more responsibilities needs to be taken in consideration (not in your or my case) thanks for the comment and response! - 8 months ago
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