This question is important to me. I think my father smokes. It wouldn't bother me too much if he did and he knew it was wrong, but he kept it from me. (If he did). Once we went on a car trip and we stopped somewhere where the cigarettes were cheaper than they are in our state. My mother got some, and my dad got some for a 'friend'. He also had cigarette's in his glove compartment in the car. My friend told me it might be his girlfriend's. I normally see a lighter out in the car, too, but that also might be his girlfriends. The big one is when I heard my mom on the phone saying that 'The kids don't know that Tom smokes. ' A lot of people we knew were named Tom, and maybe the kids were the kids of another Tom, but that worried me. I was always too nervous to ask my mom, and I'd never confront my dad. Sometimes he'd go take out the garbage and stay out for a long time, saying he was on the phone but he never walked by the window, where I could see him. He was always behind the trash can. I'm scared he might have been keeping this from me. Should I confront my mother, my father? Keep it to myself? If I asked my mother, even though my parents are divorced, she talks to him a lot (it's not an angry divorce) and she would tell him that I thought/knew. Please help me. This question is important for me to get the answer to!
If you really want to know the best way in my opinion is to catch him, walk up to him when he take out the trash, follow him when you think he want to smoke. Confront something when you don't have prove is usually a bad idea, the person can just lie to you or get moody and start saying things like "you don't trust me? I'm your ____ (father in this case)" then relationship would end up messy. Get prove then confront to your father or mother.
If your dad does smoke, I imagine the reason he'd want to keep this from you is to protect you, because he doesn't want you to follow in his footsteps. My dad used to smoke and kept it from me until I was about 12, which was when my parents split up, 9 years later he died from smoking. You say that if your dad does smoke that it wouldn't bother you if he knew it was wrong, what difference will that make? If it does bother you, you should confront him, tell him why it bothers you, maybe the thought of losing him for no good reason upsets you, and if you have got it wrong and he doesn't smoke, then he'll at least be glad to know that his daughter loves him and has his best interests at heart.
My dad smokes pot, but he never told me. It really is nothing to be angry about. I would be concerned and I would ask my mom if she knew, because then you can help him. He obviously doesn't want you to know, which is good because when parents smoke kids are more likely to smoke. So it shows he cares ( an he might be ashamed and want to quit), all I can say is love him. Don't let it effect your relationship, but communicate to him about it, and ask him if he wants to quit.
if he does you can have him call 1-800-quit now. I think that's the number. there are plenty of websites that have tons of info on this, and phone numbers for free counseling. Sorry I used to teach kids about the dangers of tobacco use. So if you want any help or need any additional information of quitting or making a supportive quit kit (just a few items that help fight addictions, and tips you can use) please feel free to email me. You can also find away to get connected to the local tobacco prevention program. On average is takes people seven times to quit smoking.
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