My "friends" are starting to act like bitches. All of a sudden I am getting left out of plans, and they're being really passive-aggressive and snotty to me. I haven't done ANYTHING and all they do is talk shit about me and make up stupid rumors. What can I do to stop them? I don't want to be friends with them anymore even if we did resolve it because the way they acted I just know there true colors now. How can I stop people from believing this awful stuff about me?
Update: I started dating this guy, and after that happened they've all been saying stuff like I'm stuck up and I think I'm this and that. My old best friend is like the ringleader of it all, and she is jealous. But I haven't done anything offensive
7 months ago
You have done SOMETHING. People don't wake up one morning and say "I think I'll make this person's life miserable today". It may be something they just believe you said or did or it may be something you actually did.
Friends don't go from being friends to being bitches overnight. Sounds to me like they're more peripheral friends than actual friends and your willingness to drop them says that you didn't really consider them to be friends either.
You can't control what people believe so don't even bother with trying.
You obviously don't know much about girls ages 13 to 24 because they can and do turn into bitches overnight without reason. Some girls do it. And please tell me that you would drop your friends if all of a sudden they were talking shit behind your back, leaving you out of plans, and doing things to hurt you. It doesn't mean you didn't consider them friends, it means that you deserve better friends because real friends wouldnt do that - 7 months ago
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Your comment is hebetudinous and nescient. My comment was regarding the asker's submission that she did nothing to initiate this event. There has to be something that evoked their behaviour; however real or imagined it may be.
My subsequent response about friends still stands. - 7 months ago
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My friend is jealous because I have a new boyfriend, and she is insecure. So I haven't done anything to her, that's just how girls are. Its not my fault =/ - 7 months ago
First, don't assume you can make them stop. However, if you can talk to members of the group alone, you might be able to find out why they join in on something so cruel. The "pack," or "mob," mentality might be at work, where they don't feel they are responsible, since they are only joining in on something someone else started. If you let them know it hurts you, individually, they might care enough to stop. If they don't, find friends who will value you for who you are, not how much they can hurt you.
It is obvious they are jealous of you. You can't change people. I am assuming that you are NOT friends with them anymore. Just separate yourself from that group and get on with your life and enjoy your great new relationship.
If you deem it necessary I would confront them and find out what the deal is and try to clear the air. I'm not saying be friends with them because they don't deserve you. Just saying that if you guys had a discussion then it might stop the rumors and you might feel better. But after the air is cleared, move on to nicer people that will respect you enough to come talk to you if they think they have a problem with you. What are these girls? Like 9?
I think you need to ignore them completely! Like you said, you don't want to be friends with them and why should you? They had a choice to act like they are acting now and now you have a choice of either putting up with their crap or just taking a deep breath and saying to yourself " I don't have to deal with this. If they decide to make me look bad. That's their problem, not mine. I must be hell of a big deal for them to spend ever freakin' minute talking about me and dealing with my life. I am going to let this go and them along with it and make new friends. Its time to move on. " Start talking to new people. Be open toward new people and who knows you may find yourself a new bunch of HONEST and LOYAL friends. Some people choose to act immature. And its really pathetic if you think about it. Why should you have to be part of this drama. If you have a choice of not being involved. Even if they DO try their best to bring you in.
Ok. I think you should find yourself some new friends! There is always the ring leader in the group followed by the rest who can't seem to think for them self. Find some friends who don't follow the leader find some who will be a actual FRIEND!
There not real friends if they are doing that behind your back. But I can tell you your not going to make them stop, I was called a slut throughout high school, I dressed like one but wasn't one. So think if its how you dress, did with a guy,etc. - 7 months ago
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